I'm not a frequent internet chatter but my mother died very suddenly a week ago while on holiday with me and I am not doing very well. We were in a foreign country when it happened and have spent much of the last week trying to repatriate her. Finally arriving home this morning to the house she held together like glue is heartbreaking and my poor father (who is not in 100% health, despite being only 61) is obviously distraught. I had hoped we were resilient and were showing great strength of character in surviving the endless bureaucracy in order to bring mum home, but I now realise we were just numb and in shock. We are a small family anyway and this will mean that dad will now live on his own.
Has anyone ever been in this position where they are mourning for one parent and desperately concerned for the health and well being of the other?
There are also medical issues in relation to mum's death which make me question whether we made all the right decisions for her. Would it be better to have her here, albeit in a condition that she likely wouldn't have wanted to be in, or let her die as we did?
Many of my friends have not yet suffered the loss of a parent (I am 33) and I am absolutely lost and heartbroken beyond words. At this stage I can't see how to move forwards.
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cantfindthewords · 17/07/2011 06:19
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