My lovely Grandpa died on Monday. He's the first person the dcs have known who has died so they are full of questions (they're 7.6, 5.11 and 4.6). They were asking where he was between now and the funeral so I explained about the chapel of rest and how people could go and see him if they wanted.
All 3 asked if they could go and see him.
I'm torn. DH thinks no, I'm tending towards saying yes but don;t know if it will be too much for them. It's not something I've ever had to think about and it's so far out of normal that I have no idea how they may react. They are all coming to the funeral, Grandpa would have wanted that but the chapel of rest is just a bit different.
Part of me thinks it would be good for them to see what being dead means because they don't understand it all, but part of me thinks it may freak them out and I don't want to cause more upset and stress than I'm already dealing with.
Has anyone ever taken their dcs and what happened, or, if you haven't, what is your gut instinct over the right thing to do?
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Taking children to the Chapel of Rest. I don't know what to do.
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LadyDamerel · 14/07/2011 09:41
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