DH's dad has mid stage alzeimers and it has progressed scarily fast...two years ago we noticed mild symptoms, last week he entered a full time care home. Firstly, it seems so unfair that such a lovely man has disapeared as this thing has ravaged his body and brilliant mind, but also that other people seem to last years and years, and he has gone so quickly.
We visited him today, and he has always loved horses his whole life, the kids chose a model horse, they gave it to him and he made a comment about how the colour was awful, dropped it on the floor and walked away. I totally know this wasnt him speaking, he loved his grandchildren, but it broke their hearts and they cant understand, while my son is older, (10) you can reason with him but it still really hurt him, my daughter just cant understand, last time we visited he asked who'd had a baby, regarding my younger daughter...and my DD1 is really scared her grandpa is going to forget her too.
He's already forgotten my DHs name, and tonight this resulted in him crying in front of the children, it put me in an awful position as although I dont want him to hide his feelings from them, he really broke down and the children looked really scared. Even after he left the room it was so hard just trying to explain to them.
I really dont know what to tell them, or him...I want to make it better for all of them and just cant!
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JessKM · 10/07/2011 23:00
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