Was going to post this in the thread about bravery ("Bravest thing you've done..." as it was the hardest thing I had done and had to steel myself for and it's been on my mind lately.
My post:
Heart thumping and dreading it but knowing I had to? Wanted to, but was scared. My friend's funeral. Planning it with her husband and other friends.
Reading at the service. Helping him with the grave. Having her dc here, they'd grown up with mine, we used to joke as long as we had 3 in each house, didn't matter who belonged to whom.
Reminded of this as 3 years later he has a new partner, the children are settled. We see less of the younger 2 but the oldest boys are still best friends.
I visited her grave earlier. Made me sad as I'd seen her youngest, now 8, with his dad's new partner, earlier today. She (new partner) is lovely, I know her too, she had a crap marriage and she and he are so happy together. I am so pleased for them both and wish them all the best.
Wistful though, at hearing the youngest boy call her "mum". I remember the day his mum told me she was pregnant with him, I was also pregnant with my dd, we looked after each other's children when the other was in hospital, also joked about the timing.
I know she'd want her children to be happy and she'd be glad someone as lovely as the new partner was now a part of their lives. I just feel sad. I miss her.
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OhmeoOhmyo · 22/05/2011 13:26
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