Hi all, very sad to report that I lost my lovely Dad just over a week ago (3rd May). He had been ill for a while, in hospital since the beginning of March. He was originally admitted with breathing problems which they first thought were pneumonia but actually was fluid around his heart. Over the next couple of months he had every test and scan going - brain scan, gastroscopy, blood tests, lymph node removal, two lung biopsies, you name it - poor Dad. He died suddenly from heart failure (15 minutes prior to this he had been smiling at Mum and giving her the thumbs up). However the actual cause of death was lung cancer, the tumour was between his heart and lung (asbestos related, will post more on that later). It was such a shock, we knew he was ill and cancer was suspected but we had been hoping it was treatable. He was only 68. Slightly complicated situation as my parents lived in France - Mum was with him when he died but called me on the phone immediately from his hospital room and was completely distraught, I had to stay on the phone for an hour with her while she waited for friends to come. It was awful. I was already booked on a flight to go and visit him and he died the night before I got there. Since then I have been to France to be with Mum and for the funeral, which was a bit wierd (French style cremation) but also lovely, and am now home but still in a state of shock, very up and down. Mum is coming to stay with us tomorrow, she needs to decide what to do but I don't think she will stay in France without him. I always knew that one day my parents would die but I never thought it would be this hard. My Dad was lovely. I can't believe I am never going to see his face again. Big hugs to all those out there who have lost a parent, it's part of life but it's still horrible.
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