I posted a while back about how I was feeling about my friendship circle, and after much thought realised for me, I had got stuck. (I read elsewhere on here about the drama triangle, and googled it, and realised I had got stuck in victim mode, and needed to accept some of the responsibility for keeping in touch with people). So I am all set to make changes in 2011.
Now I am looking at my marriage and how things have changed. I think DH is not the person he used to be. He hasn't discussed things with anyone and is unlikely to. He is a lot less confident than he used to be, unless he has had a few drinks (which causes issues as he then takes the lie in the next day), and a lot more cutting in his comments. (I guess this tallies up with a loss in confidence as it makes him feel better about himself)
I might post this in relationships but just wondered if anyone had any thoughts. I know men grieve differently and that the grief path can take you on different roads, but it would be quite nice if the roads could converge, now that we are a few years on and have another baby.
I think it has really changed him from a compassionate man who believed in a just world to someone shaken to his core by what happened, who hasn't processed it in any way shape or form but outwardly looks the same and functions by just getting on with life, but deep down has lost so much.
How did other people's DH's deal with things, did it effect your relationship, were you able to move on together?
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givingmeaheadache · 01/01/2011 08:32
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