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Sixth Christmas without my Nana and I still really miss her.

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IAmReallyFabNow · 25/12/2010 17:26

I feel pathetic tbh. I just can't believe I will never see her again and still miss her so much.

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chibi · 25/12/2010 17:50

it's not pathetic at all

you loved her, and she was a part of your life

fwiw i miss my nana too, it's been a year and a half, but i think of her often

i am sad at all the things i wish she could see/i could tell her but won't

i wish i had some feelgood platitude for you, but i don't

that is grief i guess.

i am sure you were loved by her too.

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IAmReallyFabNow · 25/12/2010 17:56

I am sorry for you too Sad.

The amount of times I have gone to ring her..

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plupervert · 28/12/2010 00:34

How can it be pathetic? Mourning is a respect we owe to those we love and loved. How could be be really human and not grieve for those we love?

The fact that you both still miss your nans mean you still love them, and that is right.

It does hurt, and yet thre is a difference between being sad and being unhappy. I'm sure they wouldn't want you to be unhappy...

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IAmReallyFabNow · 29/12/2010 19:36

Thank you.

I am unhappy at the moment and wish she was here to talk too. I need that right now.

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moondog · 29/12/2010 19:37

That's so sad.
I'm sorry you feel bad.
We lost ours six and ten years ago and the loss is so acute at this time of year.

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ChasingSquirrels · 29/12/2010 19:37

I st6ill miss mine sometimes, and she died 22.5yrs ago just before I turned 16.
Have a hug xx

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IAmReallyFabNow · 29/12/2010 19:53

Thanks.

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plupervert · 29/12/2010 23:38

Xmas Confused
Wobbly smiles all over Mumsnet...

Have a ((hug)) from me, too, all of you, and bollocks to this business about its being "un-Mumsnetty".

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IAmReallyFabNow · 30/12/2010 12:04

Thank you.

I thought time would help but it is getting harder as I so need her support and advice right now.

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plupervert · 30/12/2010 17:22

Just keep your calm, and one day her advice will start coming out of you... Smile for yourself or someone else!

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IAmReallyFabNow · 30/12/2010 19:01

I wish it would hurry up Sad. I am losing the will to live.

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plupervert · 30/12/2010 19:58

Oh, these bastard processes never "hurry up"... More's the pity, for those suffering through it.

What else is wrong at the moment?

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IAmReallyFabNow · 30/12/2010 20:01

Heart fighting head.
Love for my kids fighting my need to get away.
Life fighting the urge for permanent sleep.

I am a lot cause.
Tempting fate with my user name and feeling well.

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brokeoven · 30/12/2010 20:01

ahhh love, i know what you mean. Sad

my nanas birthday was Christmas day and she died in Novemebr 10 years ago.

She was like a mother to me, i adored her. Looked after her for 7 years before she died, and i lived with her from being 16 till i was 23. I LOVED her so much.


She was a joy and funny and loved me as much as i loved her.
Smile

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IAmReallyFabNow · 30/12/2010 20:02

Sad brokeoven.

My nana was funny too.

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brokeoven · 30/12/2010 20:05

Now when i think about her, i think of the funny stuff she used to say! It brightens my day.

Arent we lucky to have had them Smile

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IAmReallyFabNow · 30/12/2010 20:06

we are, but I want her here now Sad.

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plupervert · 30/12/2010 20:31

Yet you're finding the emotional strength to go and read other people's bereavement threads, and to post.... Your nana is there in you. Maybe not as funny as normal, but she has a lot of your grief to contend with!

brokeoven, what funny comments have you remembered recently?

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IAmReallyFabNow · 30/12/2010 20:46

I am just trying to keep busy.

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plupervert · 31/12/2010 11:34

Are you a crafty person? We could start a "race"!

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Threelittleducks · 31/12/2010 12:46

Me too fab. Lost mine this year in may and it's really hard at the first xmas. We used to share a birthday too, and that was even more difficult. Get a feeling they are with us in spirit. There's been a wee robin perched outside my window for days now. My nan's fave bird was a robin! Xx

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IAmReallyFabNow · 31/12/2010 13:19

I love that about the robin.

I ha a good talk and cry with a friend today and feel better.

My house is s tip so I am trying to sort that inbetween painful coughing.

Love to you all.

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plupervert · 31/12/2010 13:37

Painful coughing can bring the tears, too. Can you have a hot bath, to warm up your core and give your lungs a rest? The warmth will help soothe your muscular tension. If you have bubbles, the DC can come in and out and chat to you, so you don't need to feel guilty about "getting away" from them.

Sorry it's only a quick fix, but it's not a shortcut to grieving that you need to feel guilty about, and will actually help physically (and it seems that's needed!).

Chirp, chirp, . We need only a couple more posters, and then we will have Snow White and the Seven Dwarves, with Snow's little birds helping her with all the housework! Wouldn't that be a nice Christmas present!

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IAmReallyFabNow · 31/12/2010 13:48

kids at inlaws thankfully

feeling sick now, mil thinks i have the winter flu bug, yippee

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plupervert · 31/12/2010 13:54

Gosh, winter bug is not good. I had something a couple of weeks ago, and DH has just gone to work after 6 days in bed.

Hope you are not too bored. Would you like a selection of links from the i-player or ITV, to keep you entertained? Happy to post them here. Do you like drama? I'm afraid I'm no good at finding entertainment, though, as I am strictly non-Strictly (no time, what with RL and MN!).

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