Sixth Christmas without my Nana and I still really miss her.

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IAmReallyFabNow Sat 25-Dec-10 17:26:06

I feel pathetic tbh. I just can't believe I will never see her again and still miss her so much.

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chibi Sat 25-Dec-10 17:50:10

it's not pathetic at all

you loved her, and she was a part of your life

fwiw i miss my nana too, it's been a year and a half, but i think of her often

i am sad at all the things i wish she could see/i could tell her but won't

i wish i had some feelgood platitude for you, but i don't

that is grief i guess.

i am sure you were loved by her too.

IAmReallyFabNow Sat 25-Dec-10 17:56:38

I am sorry for you too sad.

The amount of times I have gone to ring her..

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plupervert Tue 28-Dec-10 00:34:29

How can it be pathetic? Mourning is a respect we owe to those we love and loved. How could be be really human and not grieve for those we love?

The fact that you both still miss your nans mean you still love them, and that is right.

It does hurt, and yet thre is a difference between being sad and being unhappy. I'm sure they wouldn't want you to be unhappy...

IAmReallyFabNow Wed 29-Dec-10 19:36:02

Thank you.

I am unhappy at the moment and wish she was here to talk too. I need that right now.

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ChasingSquirrels Wed 29-Dec-10 19:37:31

I st6ill miss mine sometimes, and she died 22.5yrs ago just before I turned 16.
Have a hug xx

moondog Wed 29-Dec-10 19:37:31

That's so sad.
I'm sorry you feel bad.
We lost ours six and ten years ago and the loss is so acute at this time of year.

IAmReallyFabNow Wed 29-Dec-10 19:53:53


<wobbly smile>

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plupervert Wed 29-Dec-10 23:38:25

Wobbly smiles all over Mumsnet...

Have a ((hug)) from me, too, all of you, and bollocks to this business about its being "un-Mumsnetty".

IAmReallyFabNow Thu 30-Dec-10 12:04:20

Thank you.

I thought time would help but it is getting harder as I so need her support and advice right now.

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plupervert Thu 30-Dec-10 17:22:56

Just keep your calm, and one day her advice will start coming out of you... smile for yourself or someone else!

IAmReallyFabNow Thu 30-Dec-10 19:01:16

I wish it would hurry up sad. I am losing the will to live.

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plupervert Thu 30-Dec-10 19:58:23

Oh, these bastard processes never "hurry up"... More's the pity, for those suffering through it.

What else is wrong at the moment?

IAmReallyFabNow Thu 30-Dec-10 20:01:16

Heart fighting head.
Love for my kids fighting my need to get away.
Life fighting the urge for permanent sleep.

I am a lot cause.
Tempting fate with my user name and feeling well.

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brokeoven Thu 30-Dec-10 20:01:55

ahhh love, i know what you mean. sad

my nanas birthday was Christmas day and she died in Novemebr 10 years ago.

She was like a mother to me, i adored her. Looked after her for 7 years before she died, and i lived with her from being 16 till i was 23. I LOVED her so much.

She was a joy and funny and loved me as much as i loved her.

IAmReallyFabNow Thu 30-Dec-10 20:02:41

sad brokeoven.

My nana was funny too.

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brokeoven Thu 30-Dec-10 20:05:13

Now when i think about her, i think of the funny stuff she used to say! It brightens my day.

Arent we lucky to have had them smile

IAmReallyFabNow Thu 30-Dec-10 20:06:03

we are, but I want her here now sad.

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plupervert Thu 30-Dec-10 20:31:27

Yet you're finding the emotional strength to go and read other people's bereavement threads, and to post.... Your nana is there in you. Maybe not as funny as normal, but she has a lot of your grief to contend with!

brokeoven, what funny comments have you remembered recently?

IAmReallyFabNow Thu 30-Dec-10 20:46:52

I am just trying to keep busy.

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plupervert Fri 31-Dec-10 11:34:33

Are you a crafty person? We could start a "race"!

Threelittleducks Fri 31-Dec-10 12:46:07

Me too fab. Lost mine this year in may and it's really hard at the first xmas. We used to share a birthday too, and that was even more difficult. Get a feeling they are with us in spirit. There's been a wee robin perched outside my window for days now. My nan's fave bird was a robin! Xx

IAmReallyFabNow Fri 31-Dec-10 13:19:10

I love that about the robin.

I ha a good talk and cry with a friend today and feel better.

My house is s tip so I am trying to sort that inbetween painful coughing.

Love to you all.

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plupervert Fri 31-Dec-10 13:37:41

Painful coughing can bring the tears, too. Can you have a hot bath, to warm up your core and give your lungs a rest? The warmth will help soothe your muscular tension. If you have bubbles, the DC can come in and out and chat to you, so you don't need to feel guilty about "getting away" from them.

Sorry it's only a quick fix, but it's not a shortcut to grieving that you need to feel guilty about, and will actually help physically (and it seems that's needed!).

Chirp, chirp, <robin nibbles gently on Fab's, and threelittleducks's, and brokeoven's, and moondog's ChasingSquirrels's, and chibi's ears>. We need only a couple more posters, and then we will have Snow White and the Seven Dwarves, with Snow's little birds helping her with all the housework! Wouldn't that be a nice Christmas present!

IAmReallyFabNow Fri 31-Dec-10 13:48:34

kids at inlaws thankfully

feeling sick now, mil thinks i have the winter flu bug, yippee

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