This site is new to me but after reading some of the stories last night I felt I had to add my story. Its been nearly 8 yrs since I lost my baby, & like others it feels like yesterday.
During my 1st pregnancy with my boy my screen blood test showed high risk for d/s, at 17 wks I ad an amnio.Everything went ok, the results came back normal etc. I went on to have to have a healthy boy. I got caught p/g very quickly, which meant there would be a yr between thier births. Again my screening test showed high risk for d/s. I was advised by my m/w to have another amnio as the 1st was ok. At 18 wks an amnio was tried, but they couldn't get any fluid . The Dr became ill looking & had to sit down.She said the procedure would have to be carried out in a wks time.I was not advised of the greater risk that 2 amnios would give.So a wk later @19 wks p/g a further amnio was carried out,they got fluid this time,but I was in alot af pain,aswell as the Dr not scanning the procedure at the same time. When the Dr finished,he scanned again but couldnt see a heart beat,this carried on for what seemed like hours.He said I'd have to go down to have an ultrasound. The ultrasound confirmed that my baby had died.I screamed the place down.When I got back to the room where the amnio was carried out,the Dr that did it said"well the baby only had a faint heart beat anyway" So I said well you had no right to do the amnio, with it being a risk in itself.
I went home, then had to return to the hospital knowing I would have to give birth. I was given a pessary to induce labour. The labour lastd longer than my 1st. The whole procedure was degrading,as I had so many m/w's trying to break my waters.I was unconsolable,so they gave me morphine.15 hrs after returning to hospital I gave birth to my dd.I looked at her & had a photo of her.But her eye was bulging & her head was caved in on 1 side.I was convinced they had killed my baby. So I insisted on a p/m. I chose to have a funeral also (xmas eve)of all days! In the mean time the p/m showed that dd had got anenchephily(sp/bif of the brain)but the amnio results showed that everything was normal!!!
That was when I went to a solicitor & took the matter further. But I had to have a 2nd p/m done, so I couldnt actually have the funeral until 3 mnths later.
To cut a long story short I went through 3 years of hell.Good news/Bad news! In the end I took it to the courts to have a barristers opinion,for him to say that I didnt have a case,against the nhs, & if I wanted to pursue it-it would cost me alot on money.I was devastated. Even though after the 2nd p/m some of her body parts showed no form of anenchephily. I went to Library & read up on it also,apparently it should of shown up on my 12 wk scan-but it didn't.
So to this day,I'm none the wiser.
Has anybody else been through a simular experience,or heard of anenchephily(even though I might have spelt it wrong).I would love to hear from you.
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I lost my baby after an amnio
Jenny1973 · 14/09/2005 22:52
I'm so sorry for your loss and the horrific experiences you had.
If the baby had anencephaly then it wasn't the amnio that caused the death. That doesn't do anything though to lessen your awful pain and loss or the very distressing experiences you had.
Have you looked at bereavement counselling? Nothing can ever bring your baby back but sometimes it can help to talk through the loss and the trauma, especially as it sounds like for you there were other important relationships (your partner and mum) that ran into difficulties at the same time. You must have felt very alone struggling with your loss 
If you have a google you may find there are charities in your area that can offer counselling with someone experienced in helping people who have experienced difficult bereavement.
This is a very old thread Honeybee you might have more success starting your own thread.
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