Toddler tantrums

[Glash28]

Help! My son is 2 and whenever I say No he throws things, hits me, hits his sister. He also bites, pinches and pulls hair. His sister(4) has never smacked anyone and I don't know where he gets it from. I sit him on the stairs, send him to bed, get down to his level and tell him I don't like it but nothing seems to work.

[expatinscotland]

Move his cot to the middle of a room, put him in it, tell him why, tell him (calmly) that you'll be back once he calms down, and walk out, closing the door.

[Glash28]

I can't because he is out of his cot but I can try the other suggestion. Although he does tell me he is sorry all the time and wants a cuddle. Am I wrong for giving him a cuddle when he's just been naughty. I want to let him know I still love hime even though he has been naughty. I feel sorry for my daughter (4) though as she gets all the brunt of it mostly.

[Twiglett]

maybe you've trained him into the thought process that 'to get a cuddle I need to be naughty then say sorry'

over the next few days could you try to really drive him mad with physical affection over normal / good behaviour .. like the smallest thing .. walking well when outside, sitting down nicely, whatever .. see whether that starts to break the cycle

also I would say cuddles are fine as long as time out has been finished (2 minutes - no exceptions) and he is totally calm)

[MarsLady]

ditto the twig!

[Glash28]

We are normally really affectionate anyway and I know that I am really good with giving praise alot of the time which he really loves. We have lots of time to be together and talk about and watch his favourite TV programme. It tends to be round his sister. I think she winds him up alot but hitting is not the answer. I've been told to tell my daughter to 'hit him back' but I can't allow that.