My DD of 2yrs 8 months has started noticing the differences between herself and her brother (2 months). There are many different words for the male genitalia, e.g. willy, but I've been struggling to think of words for the female genitalia which are not crude or overly medical.
So if I tell her that her brother has a bottom and a penis, what would be the equivalent for her?
A vagina I suppose. I just said to mine, I don't have a willy because I am not a boy. I didn't feel the need to tell them of the female genitalia, but that is just me. Judging by a thread recently, most people do talk about little girls' vaginas and have a bewildering mix of words for it.
But surely the problem with 'vagina' is that it only refers to the, well, vagina. Whereas when little girls refer to their bits, they generally mean the externally visible bits. Dd1 was quite shocked when, aged 7 or so, she realised that there was a bit that went up inside. Fanny or minnie covers all the external genitalia, wee-wee bits and so forth, which is more useful in the day-to-day life of a small girl, IYSWIM.
Ks are you serious? What goes where? My mother referred to front bottom. I always thought she meant where the wee comes from. I don't remember ever knowing I had a third opening until I read about it when I was about 9. I wasn't shocked or horrified, or confused. Children are constantly learning new things and are very good at assimulating this new information. Why does a small girl need to know about her vagina anyway? Unless she happens to ask where babies come from and you feel the need to give her a blow by blow account, I can't think why she needs to know about it. I have no name for those parts as my dd (aged 5) has never asked about it or babies (even though I have a younger ds3). When my older boys asked me why I had no willy (if indeed they did ask this) I simply said because I am a woman and only men/ boys have willies. Nothing more needed to be said. Am i alone in thinking this way?