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sandyballs Thu 14-Jul-05 13:21:18

...... my DD's start reception in September and are still very reluctant to wipe their own bums.
I'm working on it but not sure if they will be very proficient at this by then. Friends say that teachers don't get involved with this, expecting them to be able to do it themselves by the start of school - surely not . They can't be the only ones like this can they - or do I have to accept they will come home with severely skiddy pants . Lovely in this weather

popsycal Thu 14-Jul-05 13:22:25


Xena Thu 14-Jul-05 13:23:01


chatee Thu 14-Jul-05 13:23:46

get ready for mucky pants!!!!!(sorry)
my dd has cerebral palsy and still occasionally comes home with marks..

morningpaper Thu 14-Jul-05 13:23:55


serenity Thu 14-Jul-05 13:25:17

Skiddy pants I'm afraid! DS2 is at the end of reception now and still sometimes comes home with surprises for me....

They don't do it in (school) Nursery either...I used to be very glad that DS1 and 2 would time it for outside nursery hours!

TrophyWife Thu 14-Jul-05 13:26:20

no teacher arent allowed to as its too
close to their bits...IYKWIM

i was talking to one of my mates about this
and she said that he boy wouldnt wipe his
bum at 5, so she left him in the bathroom
crying on the loo waiting for her to wipe
it for him, and about 45 min later and a
lot of tears, he did it himself and has been
fine ever since.

morningpaper Thu 14-Jul-05 13:28:53

My SIL reaches reception and she says basically it's an issue of TIME - if she had to check and wipe 30 bottoms every two hours, scrubbing her hands in between, she'd be there all day.

sandyballs Thu 14-Jul-05 13:37:28

Thanks for your replies. I really must sort this out then and stop doing it for them. The problem is they both eat tons of fruit and their stools are a little, ahem, loose. The couple of times I have let them wipe themselves they've got into a disgusting mess but they have to learn I suppose.

SoupDragon Thu 14-Jul-05 13:39:12

DS1 seemed to adjust his bodyclock so he went in the morning before school Still got occasional skiddy pants though.

popsycal Thu 14-Jul-05 13:48:57

not just time
we are not allowed

popsycal Thu 14-Jul-05 13:49:54

my ds1 isnt 2 yet and goes to nursery school in sept. only potty trained since april and will be expected to wipe his own bum
he gies a few times a day too

popsycal Thu 14-Jul-05 13:50:06

i meant he isnt 3 yet

fee77 Thu 14-Jul-05 13:50:59

And we don't want to!!

Lonelymum Thu 14-Jul-05 13:51:32

Absolutely not. I hate dirty pants coming home, but I do remember having a few myself a child so I suppose we have to accept them as part of growing up and learning to do for yourself.

Twiglett Thu 14-Jul-05 13:51:53


dinosaur Thu 14-Jul-05 13:52:30

No they don't.

Jimjams Thu 14-Jul-05 14:32:47

They do at ds1's school, but then they also change nappies (it's an SLD school). Actually the whole toiletting thing was a nightmare when ds1 was in mainstream.

Enid Thu 14-Jul-05 14:33:37

dd's friend pooed her pants at school and they cleaned her up and put new pants on her

Enid Thu 14-Jul-05 14:33:53

dd1 was fascinated

dinosaur Thu 14-Jul-05 14:34:50

When DS1 (who actually has a SN diagnosis) has done that they have either (a) ignored him or (b) phoned up DH to go in and change him!

Now we just insist that DS1 "goes" every morning before school.

maddiemo Thu 14-Jul-05 14:39:27

My eldest ds was bulied by an 11 year old when he was in reception. Subsequently, he began messing himself as he was too scared to go to the toilet. While I can understand that the staff can't change he would be sitting in stinking, full of poo pants until I collected him.

spykid Thu 14-Jul-05 15:05:55

not part of job description....thank god!

MamaMaiasaura Thu 14-Jul-05 15:11:26

I spoke to school nurse abuot this at ds's 5 year check.. nope teachers dont wipe their bums. I still help out tho at home. Thought i might be mollycoddling him but school nurse said perfectly normal to still need a bit of help and usually till about 7.

coppertop Thu 14-Jul-05 15:34:42

Ds1 had a pooing accident at school soon after starting in Reception. The staff were great and cleaned him up and gave him clean pants to put on. Generally though the children wipe their own bums at school.

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