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Dior Tue 05-Jul-05 21:52:59

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Dior Wed 06-Jul-05 20:26:27

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flashingnose Wed 06-Jul-05 20:30:02

I think I'd be inclined to involve a professional as it's reached the stage where it's having a real impact on day to day life. Sounds very much like you've tried lots of different things, all to no avail, so this must now be bordering on phobia.

I'd visit your GP for advice/referral, I think.

Magscat Wed 06-Jul-05 20:30:57

Any idea what started it? I mean, was there any identifiable trigger? How old is he?

morningpaper Wed 06-Jul-05 20:31:28

Gosh I agree, a professional might be a good idea at this point. I don't know how old he is but I've read that hypnotherapy can be very useful for children, might be worth looking into. Good luck!

Dior Wed 06-Jul-05 20:42:49

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Magscat Wed 06-Jul-05 20:47:55

I've just seen your post on the idea of a 4 year old being a drama queen and it's funny our boys are the same age and it sounds like both can be a bit anxious/dramatic about certain things.

How does his behaviour feel to you ? I mean does it feel like he's doing it for attention or like he really can't help it/is genuinely terrified? Does he get over it straight away once he can't see the pine cones?

Has he ever been like this about anything else?

My ds went through a phase of being scared of one of the blokes on Smarteenies and screamed at us to turn off the telly if he was on.

Dior Wed 06-Jul-05 20:53:18

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starlover Wed 06-Jul-05 20:55:41

will he tell you WHY he is scared of them?

Dior Wed 06-Jul-05 20:59:34

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starlover Wed 06-Jul-05 21:01:07

do you think you could gradually introduce them to him?
ie, perhaps get a picture of one... ask him to draw one... show him a tiny one...etc etc
build it up until he is used to seeing them?

helsi Wed 06-Jul-05 21:01:54

does he realise the fact that he is bigger then they are and have you tried squshing one under foot to demonstrate the power that we as people would have over the pine cone and that we can "hurt" it rather than the other way round? does this make sense? just trying to explain in an easy way that I would for dd.

Magscat Wed 06-Jul-05 21:02:54

Might be worth checking out with GP or with a freindly Health Visitor if you have one (my HV is better than my GP - more human IYKWIM.

Sorry if this worries you more than you are already. It's really hard to get inside their heads isn't it?

helsi Wed 06-Jul-05 21:03:00

additionally, have you tried bribing him into thinking that they could be magical? I don't know but off the top of my head could they be linked to magic or fairies or something else thathe likes?

starlover Wed 06-Jul-05 21:03:33

like helsi's idea... also if you have an open fire you can throw some on?

Dior Wed 06-Jul-05 21:04:14

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Magscat Wed 06-Jul-05 21:05:24

Can any of the teachers at pre-school shed any light ?

Magscat Wed 06-Jul-05 21:05:58

Was just wondering if someone threw one at him or something like that.

helsi Wed 06-Jul-05 21:07:35

how about telling him that if he gets scared and sad then that makes Santa sad and it means he can't concentrate on getting all the pressies ready for Xmas so he needs to try and ignore the pine cones etc be brave so that Santa can carry on working getting the pressies ready for Xmas.

sorry a bit weak but kids go for simple and not complicated things!!

I will have a think of some more things to try.

Dior Wed 06-Jul-05 21:08:54

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Dior Wed 06-Jul-05 21:10:48

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Magscat Wed 06-Jul-05 21:11:55

Fingers crossed for you & your ds. I really feel for you.

Magscat Wed 06-Jul-05 21:12:38

Sorry I can't think of anything else. If I do, I'll be back

Let us know how it goes.

marthamoo Wed 06-Jul-05 21:13:04

Bless him - I think you have tried everything you can on an 'amateur' level and it's time to seek professional help: it does sound like a genuine phobia. Best of luck - poor little mite - let us know how you get on.

Dior Wed 06-Jul-05 21:13:14

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