I have been concerned about this lately. I have read that children should be able to use a knife and fork by the time they go to school, my son who is 5.4 is still rubbish and I thought he was backwards. Looks like he is just normal!
Ds (6) is on the way there - can use a knife on its own (eg to spread) OK; has liked using a fork since before he was one, funny child; but co-ordinating them - holding the fork still, but at same time sawing with the knife - still very clumsy. Usually does Chinese-restaurant-duck-shredding-move instead of cutting.
Dd (4.5) long way to go. Also handy with a fork, but can't even spread with a knife. Definitely can't cut, and as for using the two together - !
"Am starting to feel very very bad about how cross I've been getting with dd1."
aww don't feel that way. It's odd with 'parenting' there are certain things which everyone "knows" should be done at certain times - you can't get away from them (walking, talking, reading etc etc). But other things like using a knife and fork people rarely talk about - so it's difficult to 'gauge' (sp) what is 'normal' and what's not IYKWIM
OK thanks folk you have made me feel a lot better. Like Tia I was concerned that he ought to be reasonably able to use them by the time he goes to school. Something I read too but I'm not sure where.
He is reasonably competent with a fork, although holds it like a shovel. I'll work on that first then and try to get him to hold his knife. He will soemetimes attempt to cut with it but it is very clumsy hold and tear approach.
That sounds completely mornal form all the replies here