Hi
I have a two year old daughter (27 months, to be exact)who is awfully clever and sweet and loving. She talks really well and plays nicely with her toys and in general I am sure she is normal. But I feel a bit guilty because in some respects I seem to have failed to socialise her. For example, she will not sit still at a table to eat (she still has to go in a high chair) and seems disinclined to eat with a spoon (although I know she can). She also refuses to eat vegetables unless they come in the little jars for six month old babies. She is also into scratching and pinching me (the other day I smacked her on her hand for the first time ever, out of desperation, and she looked so shocked and upset that I felt sick!). She refuses to sit in her stroller or trolley at the shops (if I force her, there is a huge tantrum) but if I let her walk, she won't hold my hand, but runs around like mad, deliberately bumping into people and laughing uproariously while I look on in embarrassment. She deliberately knocks things off shelves in shops. I try to tell her that this is not appropriate and I know she understands - she is just naughty!
Then there is toilet training. She is definetely adverse. If I ask her, how about we try the toilet, she says, 'I am too little,' or 'I could fall in (!)' Actually she just doesn't seem to mind pooey nappies. She will always tell me if she has done a pooh, but rarely asks to be changed. And when I do change her, she insists on looking at the pooh! Is this normal? Should I let her look at her pooh? I don't want to turn her into a copraphiliac!
And then there is bedtime. She will NOT go to sleep in a bed by herself, except for naps. Recently she has even started refusing to let me tuck her in and tip-toe out: now she wants me to lie in bed with her until she is asleep. With my arms around her. In a very specific position (she calls this 'proper arm').She is just tyrannical about bedtime, to be honest, but if I try to resist her demands, she becomes so distressed that my resolve crumbles and we are back to square one again.
I guess the three main things are the sitting down for meals, bedtime and the toilet training. Her father and I recently separated, and in our current accomodation, there is no dinner table, so we are forced to eat in front of the TV. The circumstances are less than ideal.
Like I said, she is just a lovely child, and very bright, but sometimes I feel a bit ashamed when I see how well disciplined other children of her age seem to be. Any suggestions?
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Two year old 'unsocialised'?
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Caththerese1973 · 26/06/2005 09:46
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