dd (nearly 4) has started to show an increasing awareness in differences in those around her, specifically race. We live in a largely white community and her new best friend at nursery is black, so need some advice on how to answer questions like 'is that xxxx's daddy/mummy' (every black adult 'why are we not the same etc'
Don't really want to make a big deal of it as I didn't really think I would need to explain anything, thought the 'everyone is different' line would suffice but dd is curious and demnading fuller answers! Anyone?
there are different people all over the place. Round here most people look more or less like you and your dp (pinky colour skin) in other places there are more different kinds of people, and that's great. Make sur she has some books that feature children and adults of different ethnicities. Talk about them positively. I don't know why people think kids won't notice something as blindingly obvious as skin colour- what's important is that they learn to see it as in interesting, positive difference. IMO.
Just point out how some people have blue eyes, some brown, some green, some people have red hair, some have yellow hair etc - and some people have darker skin than others. It's as uncomplicated as that.
idontbelieve, that is VERY interesting, thanks for posting that....to everyone else, do have a look, it explains I think persuasively that we (by which I mean white parents) do our children a big disservice by not mentioning race and hoping they grow up without noticing difference...or absorbing society's views on race. Something I suspect black parents could have told us.
When our dd first noticed this we were living in Oman, I just told her that people were the same inside, it was just outside that they were different. Same as brown eggs and white eggs. I am proud to say she used this analogy when we lived in Thailand.