My 6yr old fb daughter has been teeth grindingly slow at every developmental stage. If something happens between 6-12 months, you can bet it'll be 14 months before she gets round to it. SHe does get round to it and is capable and not special needs (as far as we know)but she seems not to be motivated at all. She is currently skiing with her school. They were all beginners but all the rest of the class are now far and away better than she is. She refuses to do as she is asked and is not even doing the basics, let alone mastering them, as the others are. The instructors and her father are blue in the face telling her what to do, to no avail. And she does not care. All the others tease, and want to be better than each other and are motivated by their own success but she just wants to go down the smallest slope. She is not scared and actually thinks shes very good at it! It was the same riding a bike, swimming etc. She learned how not to drown but is refusing to take instruction to actually learn strokes. She doesn't use stabilisers but has given upriding her bike because its hard work. We are worried in case she is left behind so far in everything that she will not be able to catch up. If she offers no challenge and nothing interesting to her peers, how long before they forget all about her. I don't want a forgotten child who no-one wants to know becuase they perceive her to be too stupid to even learn the rudiments of all the usual kids stuff.
At school they say she is reading, writing and doing maths with no problem, so i am assured there isn't an over riding learning difficulty, but her "away with the fairies" approach to life in general is getting us all down, she seems to make zero progress on everything and we don't want to push to the point of "military school" approach. What can we do? How do we motivate a unmotivatable child? The fact that her peers are way ahead on other stuff does not bother her like it does for a normal 6 yr old. Help!
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6yr old bottom of class in everything and doesn't care
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beatrix03 · 31/10/2009 21:00
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