What can I do about 3 yr old dd loudly rebuking other children?

[breastsofjordan]

There have been a view instances where dd has decided to shout at other children, for example if she thinks they don't want to play with her, or if they have picked up or taken something of hers. She will come and announce to me that she's going to 'tell them off,' then she goes and stands near them and will shout something like,'You don't not play with me, you're not kind!!'
She is now in full time nursery at the local school. At parents evening her teacher told us that she's a lovely girl, she's shy but settling in. The the next day she had to tell me that dd had shouted at several children that day. (To be fair to dd she got a raging temp that night so maybe her tolerance was low that day.)
I really don't know what to do. DD is an only child. I've tried telling her that this isn't acceptable. I've tried to get her to understand that this will make the other children upset. But she's 3, she doesn't understand that her actions have consequences, and she's stubborn. Will she grow out of this? Any ideas gratefully received.

[teameric]

mmm sounds like my DD who's the same age, no advice I'm afraid can I wait with you for some good advice to come along

[Cadelaide]

Awwww, bless her.

I wouldn't worry too much, I wouldn't be bothered if a 3yo "told off" my child like that, she's so little.

I think she'll realise soon enough that it's not acceptable, if you and nursery staff keep telling her.

[teameric]

at least there sticking up for themselves I suppose!

[SolidGhoulBrass]

My DS is a bit like this too (he is 5). I tell him to stop being officious (and struggle not to add, Don't turn into your father) and am basically hoping that he will grow out of it.
Sorry not to be more helpful, I think this is just something that some kids do and hopefully grow out of. Or they grow up and become fecking traffic wardens or noddyplods.

[teameric]

their I mean

[breastsofjordan]

I'm a teacher, she must have inherited my need to instruct! I'm quite gentle with her though.
Thanks for your re-assuring replies. Am off to bed but will check back in tomorrow.