My 3 month old little boy seems to be developing a hot temper. He will literally scream his head off for no (apparant) reason. If I pick him up he stops immediately and starts smiling at me but if I put him in his chair or playmat he starts screaming again.
I don't pick him up straightaway - I'll leave him for 5 mins or so but he just screams louder and louder.
Any advice, tips, etc as to what I can do ... I really want to nip this in the bud before it gets worse if possible.
Apologies for the "ffs", that was unnecessary. But really, he is so tiny, he just needs a lot of holding at the moment. I know it can be hard work, but leaving him to cry can't be much fun either surely?
I am going to be bossy here because it is something I feel VERY passionate about.
If you give a baby all it needs, including close contact whenever it feels lonely, scared or just bored, you will nurture the trust between mother and child and the separation anxiety will improve with time.
If you force a newborn to conform to ideas that they need to be alone, by leaving it in its own misery, you will only hard wire them towards negative feelings.
IGNORE anyone who tells to you are setting yourself up etc. because, I have never once met a child (not baby) that screams the moment its mother puts it down. All babies grow up into children and then adults, babyhood is just a period in time. No matter how draining it is, your baby needs you to be there for it. Babies brains cannot 'think' like we do, they just react to situations ie. feeling frightened, alone etc.
LOVE LOVE and more LOVE. Then, as your baby grows, they will want more and more freedom. There will come a day when they might not even want an offered kiss or cuddle. Make the most of it. Get a sling, they are lifesavers for babies that need closeness all the time.
I second what eggontoast said. You can't hold a wee one enough they don't know they are seperate from the nearest hugger yet so they want to be held. I snuggle my 4 month old charge a lot and if she wants to be left alone she lets me know by arching away etc. She's pretty secure I hope, in knowing that her parents or myself are there for her. She sleeps through the night 90% of the time and does ok with self soothing at night, so during the day we all get to give her all the snuggles she wants and needs It is hard work sometimes getting what needs to be done, done, but infants are teeny for such a short time that pretty soon you'll be past this stage. Pee fast and get used to cold tea
Wow people on here are quick to jump down your throat aren't they!? Everyone has to put a baby down from time to time whether they cry or not. We need to cook, deal with older children or wipe our arses for God's sake. Keep doing what you're going and obviously there will be a few minutes of the day where the baby will have to cry for you to get anything done.
I do agree with everyone on the fact that it doesn't last forever and it's totally normal for a baby to not want to be put down. My ds wouldn't be put down til he was about 9 months old and he could crawl! It was very hard work so I sympathise.
I agree that you shouldn't leave a baby to cry for no reason or try to change them into being non-clingy because it won't work. At 3 months all they want is milk and mummy to constantly comfort them.
I still wouldn't leave my 2 year old crying now but I do apreciate it s hard work!!
i don't think your baby has developed the tools to manipulate yet-it's hard to not think they have personality traits and we do 'project' adult things onto them-if they are crying at that age then they probably have a need to be met,i think even genius/really advanced kids are quite a bit older before they learn that crying=someone comes running. just try and do stuff one handed/quickly and forget drinking a hot cup of tea for a few more months!