Concerned about dd2's behaviour(4 in January)

[Beauregard]

She has always been a mini whirlwind and very bull in a china shop type child.
She is very physical and seems to break everything and has many violent outbursts(eg scratching sisters face).
She throws whatever she is nearest to.
She is very impulsive and often runs off without warning.
She wont listen to stories and talks over her sisters reading.
She very often starts talking about something and halfway through a sentence switches to another topic.
She is very loud and only seems to shout.We all end up shouting
She repeats and obsesses over things constantly.For example "Im not 4 yet i cant go to big school", have had about 8 weeks of this and the latest"I want to wear tights and skirt"(or other variation)She will wake me at 6am to tell me this.
I have spoken to the staff at preschool (she does 5 3 hour sessions a week)
They have said that she does have ocd type repititions etc and they are doing observations so the next step is to speak to HV.
We find that her behaviour is really impacting on us as a family as she often spoils things for dd1.And worst of all we seem to be constantly shouting at her.Which i hateWe do praise and try to focus on the positives but they are so few.
We want to enjoy our little girl and be happy in her company but we find we are sort of living in fear of the next outburst.
When she wants to be she is a very sweet and funny little girl and we love her very much.

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

might be dyspraxia?

I think that seeing your HV/getting a referral to a professional might help you

It could be that she is a really high maintenance child who will calm down as she matures

[Beauregard]

We use the naughty corner with her but it doesnt seem to work.
I suppose i am worried that it is more than just naughty behaviour.
We are away for a few days half term and wait with baited breath for her to kick off.

[Beauregard]

boysarelikedogs-She does so many of those things on that list

[Beauregard]

10 of the symptoms

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

I worked for 2 years with a child with dyspraxia (am a cm)

A dear child, hard work but v rewarding iyswim

I found that they needed v strongly defined boundaries and coped better if we stuck to a routine

eg walk home from school
coats/shoes off
wash hands
snack
activity

If any deviation from this then they were out of their comfort zone IMMEDIATELY

I had to do a LOT of role play/modelling stuff like

turn taking
waiting for attention
not interrupting
walking safely along the pavement

A lot of what other children find easy or 'natural' - not being 'in your face', respecting other folk's 'personal space' did not seem obvious or intutive to this child, hence the role play and modelling.

Sorry for the ramble, hope it's helped

[Beauregard]

Yes thankyou that is interesting Boysarelikedogs

[Beauregard]

Well just returned home from our holiday which should have been 4 nights.dd's behaviour was awful she has screamed her way round Somerset and we couldn't do anythingThe place we stayed was horrible and dd's behaviour was so bad i was crying a lot.Everywhere we went people were staring because of the sheer noise she makes when she kicks off.

[pinkhousesarebest]

Gosh I really feel for you. Our ds was like this. Also did not talk until nearly three so pent up with huge frustration. I could never go to the supermarket with him,had to be careful to never leave him alone with his smaller sister as he was so violent and unpredictable. I avoided mothers and toddlers like the plague because of the way people looked at us,and was so grateful to the few friends who stuck with us. It also had my husband and I at loggerheads all the time. He is now 8, and a total delight, gentle and thoughtful. No one would ever believe that he was so very difficult. Just hang in there.

[Beauregard]

Thanks