My DS (nearly 5) seems to have settled in well at school, but one thing we have noticed recently is that he has started to use lots of language related to guns, bombs, killing, jet-fighters, etc. when playing at home. He's always been quite bright and articulate but physically very cautious, so at nursery he seemed to develop more friendships with girls than boys (many of whom were always wielding pretend guns and having fights - DS used to watch them but never seemed to want to join in). Now he's at school I know it's inevitable that he'll be exposed to testosterone-fuelled play, and I know that this does seem to be a normal thing for this age group, but hearing him use such violent words/scenarios at home is upsetting both DH and myself and we're particularly bothered that his little sister (nearly 3) is copying. I know he needs to find his own way socially and work out which of his classmates he's most comfortable with, and I certainly wouldn't dream of interfering with his development of friendships at this stage or stopping him playing with the ones he's picking this up from (names have been mentioned in connection with it all - one of whom apparently told him that he was going to set him on fire?!), but how do we try and get the message across that we don't want to hear that kind of language in our house?! DH came down on him quite hard about it last night and he just looked really confused. Should we just lighten up and let it go? Any advice gratefully received!
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DS (nearly 5) started using violent language at home
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maniacbug · 21/10/2009 13:12
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