Stands to reason, really -- first children get to be king of the hill until no. 2 arrives, while subsequent children know from day 1 that they are not the only show in town, and have to work out strategies for getting what they want without getting thumped.
Gah, that's not what I wanted to hear - I don't think I could cope with a child more sociable than DS1. I don't think the world could cope with a child more sociable than DS1.
Seriously, I'm happy to have an outgoing child. A child who walks up to random people in the park and discusses Star Wars with them, or talks about their dogs or whatever. But what will a more sociable child be like?
Well if it's any help NQC, my first child (ds) sounds exactly like yours. DD1 is also very sociable and friendly but wouldn't be able to perform on a stage at the drop of a hat like ds could. DD2 is more shy with strangers (unless she's with her siblings) but is very sociable with people she knows.
My dd (oldest child) is like your ds1, also because we went out lots and I think it is partly her personality - outgoing and chatty.
ds, (second child) is completely different, far more reserved and shy, so it isn't always the rule. I'm waiting to see what the dts will be like.
Far better that way NQC IMHO. I think you've hit the nail on the head for our family, certainly, as ds and dd1 spent their first years abroad in a culture where everyone talks to you and babies are passed around to all and sundry. DD2 only had 9 months of that culture and has been here since, at home with me, which I think goes some way to explaining her distrust of strangers as in all other respects, she is very like ds.
My 3rd child is much more sociable than the 1st 2, but we live in a different social situation, where every adult he see's knows him and talks to him, he gets quite upset when we go away and he talks to people who don't respond, I'm sure having older siblings helps as well though.
My second (of 3 close together) is very unsociable. She refuses to talk to strangers, she only likes animals. The 2 boys (oldest & youngest) are extremely personable & people oriented. Doesn't fit with your friend's theory at all.
Oh, and my youngest is also the most anxious,by far. Was noticeable from very early on. Oldest is extremely brave and confident, second is happy in her own little world. So doesn't fit with what flashingnose said, either!
my DS is an only child and very personable,friendly and sociable.I am the eldest sister and like my son,my sister is quiet,shy and not v sociable.My friend has 3,eldest v sociable and good company,no 2 friendly,no 3 stroppy,miserable,whiney...
It must depend on the child surely? My eldest is and always has been painfully shy - he used to curl himself up on the pavement when he was about 1-2 if our neighbour spoke to him! however, he has a very caring and inclusive streak in him and plays beautifully with younger children (his siblings and others). Ds2 and dd are not shy at all and make friends more easily but ds2 is certainly less accepting of others and excludes certain children he meets eg girls and children who are not too bright (Sorry - I make him sound not very nice but that is what he is like). I am not sure with ds3 - he is 2 and hasn't yet developed his social side.