Ds "punishes" me for putting him in time out by wetting himself every.fecking.time

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

And it's getting seriously annoying now.

He only gets put in time out for aggressive behaviour - lately, biting, pinching, hitting, running into me on purpose etc.

As soon as he's in there he wets himself. It's guaranteed. I largely ignore it, clean him up, but it's been going on for nearly 2 weeks now.

What can I do about this? How do I discipline him for aggression if not time out? He's 2 and a half, by the way.

[StrictlyAvadaKedavra]

Could it be just coincidence? That he needs the loo but knows he isn't to move from time out place?

[JackBauWooohooohoowaaer]

I had to stop time outs with DD2 (who is 2 next week) as she just didnt get it( I didnt try very hard as with DD1 taking ehr stuff it was a nightmare, plus layout of house makes it PITA) She bites, hits and is quite aggresive
WHat I do do is ignore her. She gets stern voice and told what not to do and then I say 'I am going to do 'insert random acitivty' now and I will speak to you when you can behave in a nicer manner.
It is working as now I only say no and she stops instantly and she doesn't do it half as much.

She did weep and wail overly dramatically when I started doing it and throw herself down but I kept ignoring or left the room and she soon perked up.

[JackBauWooohooohoowaaer]

I ignore for about 2 mins by the way and then we have cuddle and sorry.

[smallone]

DD did this alot, or would say that she needed the loo as soon as I left her. I put the potty in the hall where she does her time out, that solved it. Never really decided if it was an excuse or the upset of being told off sparked it off.

[starwhores]

Put him in timeout in the bathroom.

[Fizzylemonade]

Agree re potty or bathroom time out.

My ds2 refuses to wear a pull up if we go on a long journey (he is dry all the time, day and night) would the threat of a nappy work?

[bran]

My DS started doing this when he was 4. I made him clean it up with kitchen towels and started giving him time out in the bathroom for a while. He still wet himself when in the bathroom but at least it was easier to clean up. After a while he got bored with all the cleaning up and stopped doing it.

Even now that he's 5 I will often send him to the loo if he's being difficult in some way as that's often a sign he needs a wee or a poo. Even if he doesn't need a wee it gives hime a bit of an interruption, he tends to escalate behaviour, so if he's a little bit naughty and gets told off then he does something worse.

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

Ds loves wearing a nappy so that wouldn't be any punishment. He's just lazy, I think, which is part of the problem with potty training that we're having right now (but that's a whole 'nother thread!)

That's a really good idea about putting a potty in the hallway - just need to tidy it up sufficiently!

[mumof2rugrats]

my dd1 used to wet the bed if we sent her ther for being naughty and it went on for a yr she has only just stoped and she 6

[mummyloveslucy]

My daughter always had time out in the bathroom for this reason. I'd make him stay for the two minutes and then change him without comment. He will learn that it's not very nice being in wet trousers for two minutes. Good luck.

[auntyitaly]

Agree with mummyloveslucy - remaining unchanged for a few min is harmless but he should get the message.

[mathanxiety]

You could try sending him to the bathroom for time outs, having him remove all his wet things, bring them to the washing machine, clean the floor with spray cleaner, and fetch clean clothes for himself, then get dressed again. This is not half as much fun as watching mum do it -- I agree with Bran.