Does anyone have any experience or advice about my 9 year old dd? apologies if this gets long...
she quite often tells us about feeling unwell - sometimes headaches or tummy aches, but sometimes she isn't really sure what's wrong - just says she's feeling funny. Very often when this happens we can tie it to a source of stress - sleeping in strange places is a trigger (and we are even beginning to wonder if this has been the reason behind 3 bouts of actual vomiting).She realises this herself and agrees that sometimes it might be "nerves".
she says she hates school. but can't tell us anything in particular she hates about it. she says most of what she learns she learns out of school and she doesn't see the point.she was crying in bed last night - and din't get to sleep til about 11 am. cried on her way to school this morning, complained of a headache - I brought her back home and she's now in bed. in fact this morning she even told me that she "hates people" .
she's a bit funny about eating - pretty picky - and doesn;t eat any great volume. she's as skinny as a rake (but then again lots of 9 year olds are, and she always has been skinny). sometimes she goes in phases of leaving the table to "go to the loo" mid meal. she really doesn;t like eating at other people's houses.
we moved 9 months ago - for 2 years - with the possibility of going back (though increasingly dh and I don't want to). She found the move quite hard - left a good friend behind and found it quite hard to make new ones - but she seems to have settled in ok now (despite this morning's protesations about hating school)
Now - when I write all that down my immediate reaction, to myself, iyswim, is that yes we should at least take her to the doctors. but all of the above probably occupies 5 per cent, or less, of her time. the rest of the time she's happy and gets along just fine (or, if not beamingly happy, she's just got her lip out because she's been told to tidy her room/turn the computer off/that she can;t have more sweets etc) - so I find myself thinking that to take her to the doc's over all this might be an over-reaction to something that's no more than the normal trials of being a 9 year old and that would, in fact, make it all bigger than it is.
I don't want to ignore things - nor do I want to exacerbate them. I do worry that this could be depression or anxiety but then I think not when she steps back into normal mode. I just want to do the best for dd - and I don't know what "the best" is. any advice?
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can we deal with this or should we be getting medical/professional help? 9 year old dd and her funny ways.
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hatwoman · 28/09/2009 11:08
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