My ds is 2.6, and has just moved from a cot to a cotbed. He has a little duvet, but doesn't want a pillow. What age do they start having them? Dd is 8, but I can't remember when she started using one. He sleeps on his front, so I don't think he's uncomfortable, but just wondered if his head/neck need support?
dd1 got one at 2yo - when I checked on her she would be using her teddy bear as a pillow and decided she must be ready. Many nights I do find her half way down the bed with her head on teh mattress. But try and remove the pillow - oh no it is most definitely hers !
I also don't have one. I'm 37 in my mid-twenties, and am much more comfortable without, following the advice of an osteopath. It's sorted out my shoulder/back pain, and I generally sleep much better (on my front, btw. One of the boys also sleeps on his front, the other on his side/back).
If the boys ever raise the subject, then the ssituation might change. At the moment, if they're staying with friends they just take the pillows off the bed before they get in.
My DD asked for one at about 26 months, because she realised we had them in our bed (and she often slept in with us). I got her a very flat wool one and she loves it, but hopefully it's flat enough not to make too much difference to her posture.