DD1 is 3.4. She started pre-school on 1st of September, 3 days per week. She went the first week and although she cried when I left she got on OK. Unfortunately she became ill (asthma, chest infection) and so missed the full second week. I took her in on the Friday to talk to her teacher and she seemed excited about going back.
She went in with a bit of resistance on the Monday but didn't really want to go on Tuesday. I took her in and she was fine when I left. When I collected her she was really upset. I could only speak to the teacher briefly but she said dd had been crying on and off, refused to sit for her lunch and wouldn't do anything they asked her. She reassured me that this is common and said I should try to help her be more independent at home.
On Tuesday evening she was playing when DH and when he tickled her she started crying and said 'that's my sore arm that the teacher smacked'. She was really upset so I just comforted her and let it go.
Later on I sat down and asked her about it. She said the teacher wanted them to make a line and she wouldn't do it so the teacher smacked her. I thought maybe the teacher caught her by the arm to put her in the line but she demonstrated to me and it was clearly a smack.
DD couldn't go in on Wednesday because of an appointment so she is due to go back tomorrow. I have been worrying about it all week. It is the pre-school in the local primary school. We know loads of families who send their children there and have never heard a bad report. On the other hand it is not like dd ran out saying 'teacher smacked me'. She had a sore arm and was very clear in what she told me.
I know I need to speak to the teacher but what do I say? I can't walk in there accusing her on smacking but I believe dd that something happened. I am stressed out. I put off posting about this all week as I was trying to decide what is for the best.
DD clearly needs pre-school. She is very nervous around other children and very resistant to following rules etc so I think if she can settle in it would be very good for her.
Help. I am going round in circles.
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suiledonn · 20/09/2009 08:56
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