8yr old DD - behaviour, learning , everything ... i need some help and support!!!

[victoriafaye71]

Hi everyone, this is my first ever posting on anything like this. I was just hoping that there are other mums who have had or are having the same problems that i am and can help me out! Please!!!!
My daughter has just started Yr 3 in junior school - different school to infants. 2nd week and i have been asked to meet teacher as they have concerns! i have had concerns the last 8yrs about her development and behaviour and learning. She is the oldest in the class but the most immature. At home she has tantrums like a 2 year old and is always angry, frustrated and cries and everything this has been worse since the summer. She constantly goes on about the same thing and needs constant reassurance. At school she has friends and is happy and sociable. She has always been late in reaching her milestones and when she was about 3 she was diagnosed with global developmental delay and that was it. i was told she will catch up. i dont think she has caught up and actually thing the gap is getting bigger between her and her peers.
Her reading is, i would say is at yr 1 level and she cannot write a sentence. At the infant school she was on an IEP and i had many meetings with school etc and last year she did have an informal assessment for dyslexia which was inconclusive as could not rule out that problems were just developmental. They always reassured me that she was making progress and i was doing all that i could do. But i always had a niggle in my head that there is more to this. Nobody has ever said that she has "special educational needs" but i know that there is something wrong. She has had genetic tests which were clear. She had these done as she was born with and still has a very large head, she is very small for her age. I just dont know what else to do. It makes me sad to think that she is struggling at school as she might not be getting the help that she needs because nobody is taking this seriously. Am i overreacting and expecting too much from her? All i want is her to be happy and know what i should expect from her.
Thanks for reading this long message ( i have left loads out!!!)
Any help /advice/ support greatly appreciated.
Thanks

[ingles2]

Hi Victoria... I didn't want to leave your post unanswered...
So what was the outcome of the meeting with the teacher?
Are you seeing the SENCO? If not, go back an insist, you need an IEP, you need to know what measures the school are putting in place for her.
I would suggest you make an appointment to see your GP about your concerns and ask for a referral to the Ed. Psych.
We are currently going through all of this as after years of concerns from me, it's finally been decided that ds2 has dyspraxia.It has taken an awful lot of pushing from me though.

[francagoestohollywood]

Hello Victoria, I'm afraid I don't have much advise, but I'm "bumping" you message for someone with more knowledge to come along.

What did the teachers say, in the meeting?

[victoriafaye71]

Thanks for replying! I am seeing teacher after school today. I did make myself known to the SENCO at the jnr school at the end of last term and he knew nothing about DD1 but said he would liaise with the infant school, i know that the SALT has seen her this week. I am going to see GP again and have actually arranged for a private assessment for dyslexia in the next few weeks, her dad is dyslexic and dyspraxic which makes me think that she may be too.
Ingles2 - isnt it so much hard work to get things to happen? And everything takes so long! You must be relieved to get a diagnosis for your ds.

[victoriafaye71]

ingles2 - by the way, my mornings are a complete nightmare because of socks too!!! Always have a fight with dd about putting socks on and as you know she is 8! These sort of things make me think of dyspraxia as she has always struggled with getting dressed etc. My next tactic was to send her to school in just her shoes!!

[ingles2]

Have you had a look at dyspraxia foundation ? They have some of the common symptoms listed there. Maybe it will ring a bell.
If I were you, I'd go back in and see the SENCO. Make sure they have had a decent handover from the infant school and that things are actually happening.
Also you might want to post this in the SEN topic. I think there are lots of knowledgeable there.

[victoriafaye71]

thanks ingles i will look up the dyspraxia foundation.
Meeting with teacher was encouraging as they told me what support she is already having which was good. Teacher is to arrange a meeting for me with SENCO and told me to not to hold back on my concerns etc as this would be the only way to get the one on one support she needs. Apparently her main problem is Audio Sequential Memory. I will also be pushing for the Educational Psychologist to assess her again as it has been nearly 4 years since her last one. Apparently she is happy and well behaved at school and tries really hard. Bless her!