I'm concerned about a very close friend's child. I don't know if it's just his personality or if there's something else there that my friend really should investigate.
I'll try to be brief.
He's always been very active. Never see him yawn, rub his eyes or show any signs of tiredness. He goes to sleep very easily and sleeps through.
His behaviour deteriorated shortly before my friend had her dd. She was born prematurely a few months ago. Friend was in hospital for over a week.
When she came home with the new baby his reaction was extreme. He threw things at the baby, bit her, squeezed her, threw things at my friend, wet himself and pooed himself on purpose, and became violent towards other children (including pushing my ds off a bench and laughing, and biting my ds then shrugging his shoulders when asked what he'd done).
The thing is, that he's still doing much the same things - almost six months on. My friend has tried everything - shouting, putting him in his room, ignoring, reward charts for good behaviour etc. He never seems remotely remorseful for any of his actions. His behaviour is frankly malicious and my friend can't leave the baby alone for a second.
He just seems on a different planet. He's reluctant to give eye contact and basically spends all day bouncing off the walls - even when he's been 9-3 at pre-school. His speech is pretty good though.
Unfortunately it's obviously affecting how often I see my friend (especially seeing as I have just had a baby myself), but that's another thread...
I wonder if this should be ringing alarm bells? And if I think something's not quite right with him, how on earth do I suggest that to my friend without risking the friendship?
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Does this sound like normal behaviour for a 3.5 year old?
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Picante · 12/09/2009 19:15
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