DD's first day in reception this morning.
She went to the school's nursery last year and loved it, she spent the last term of the summer in a special group of all the girls going up to reception in a classroom next to the reception class and took some lessons with them, so she knew the teacher and who her classmates were going to be.
Anyway, she's been saying for the last 3-4 weeks she doesn't want to go back, wetting the bed (has been dry for ages), crying and saying she's scared when anyone mentions it (have tried to avoid the subject as she is a worrier who dwells on things given half a chance, but when buying school shoes etc it's impossible to avoid!).
Her best friend is going to a different school (lives in a different part of the borough) and they played together on Monday - when we said goodbye, she wept her heart out, saying things like 'why does it hurt so much when I have to leave XXX, mummy?' and 'why can't I go to her school, I hate my school, I really don't want to go back there'... waah!
So, this morning, she was fine getting into uniform, we got halfway up the road and she froze, said she didn't want to go and she hated her school, she didn't have any friends, her bag was too heavy, her uniform didn't feel right... I said if it was too awful we could come home again (mistake??) and she came along, we chatted about other stuff, then when we reached the road the school is on (5 min walk) she froze again and started crying.
By the time I got her to the school gate she was in hysterics, sobbing incoherently, all her friends gathered round asking what was wrong, despite them trying to get her to go in with them she wouldn't step past the flowerbed into the playground, she was alternately hiding behind it or clinging on to me like a limpet. Tried to carry her in, she screamed and kicked even though I told her I wouldn't put her down if she didn't want to be...
I couldn't get her to say what it was that was the matter so I just made vague soothing noises (didn't have a clue what to do!) until the classes lined up and her teacher came past with the other girls (who were all saying 'come on DD, come into school with us!').
She then followed them (clutching my hand for grim death) and we put her coat and bag away, she wouldn't let go of me despite teacher and t/a (both of whom are lovely) trying, eventually she was prised off and I left.
I am not a clingy mum, btw, I would much rather have deposited her in the playground with her friends and retired to a safe distance with the other mums, but it was impossible.
Now, I'm sure that as soon as I was out of sight she was fine, but what on earth can I do about this? Is there anything, or do I just have to live with it until she gets used to school all over again (they have a 10 week summer break, so it's plenty of time to forget about everything, I suppose!)?
I just wish she didn't seem to feel everything so deeply. She gets so upset over things and broods on them for ages, when everyone else's child seems to take them in their stride...
I feel like I've failed her in some way, that it's something I've done to make her like this... I was horribly shy as a child (which she doesn't seem to be) but I wasn't half so emotional about things and I just don't know what to do for the best. Or if indeed there's anything I can do.
Anyway, I'm just rambling now so I'll shut up...
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DD too sensitive (not sure if that's the right word?)? - have had a nightmare this week!
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Fruitbeard · 09/09/2009 12:18
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