We have been toilet training DS (2.7) for a good couple of months. He is pretty good at nursery and often goes a whole day without any accidents. However when I have him, he will always do a wee when I take him to the toilet but will equally "happily" have an accident without even telling me.
He frequently poos his pants and today when we were out at the park he did a small one in his pants. I took him to the toilet, didn't tell him off but explained that poos live in the loo (again) to which he agreed, we changed his pants and trousers he had a wee and then literally five minutes later he pooed his pants again.
When we got home I really had to make him go for a wee even though he would obviously need one as it had been a long time. He did one in his potty but also weed all over the living room floor while I was out of the room and then when I went to get a cloth to clear that up he deliberately spilled my cup of tea.
I am getting so sick of dealing with sh*tty pants and it really feels like he's doing on purpose to wind me up. There is DD 5mo at home too so I dunno if he's feeling he needs to compete for attention?? None of my friends have had this problem, most kids seem to be potty trained in 4 weeks. AAARGH! Help!
We had a big set back like this with DD about 3 months after (we thought) successful potty training. She was 2.6y at the time. It was much worse than the initial potty training, especially as I was 8mths pregnant. We had to start a reward chart, which worked after a few weeks. I have heard of quite a few people having such setbacks.
But if he's still having accidents at nursery and it sounds like he is then I think you've got 2 options. You can either bite the bullet and wait out until he has no more accidents, deliberate or otherwise, or hold off for a couple of months and see how things are then. I would lean towards going back into nappies...you have a young baby, and the mess clearly is extra work you don't need.
He doesn't sound ready to me either (or more likely, he is ready in the sense that he does know how to use the toilet, but not consisitently so. And more importantly - IME - he doesn't care that he's inconsistent)
Which is your biggest battle, I think - a pre-schooler (and he is still little for PT) who is not bothered about being wet or dirty is going to be tres difficult to get consistently clean and dry
It really is SO much easier leaving them to decide when to do it... Can you tell I've 'trained' one dc and left another to sort herself out?! Guess which method took 1 day and which one went on for-bloody-ever