my nearly-5yo DS. His behaviour has been absolutely appalling for the last few weeks - I have tried all the recommended parenting stuff - sticker charts, rewards, when I try and put him on the time out spot he refuses to go or immediately moves off it, if I try and make him sit there (with minimum force necessary) he then attacks me - hitting, biting, kicking, spitting,screaming, pinching. so i have ended up holding him face down on the floor again minimum force necessary til he calms down. but this can take ages and meanwhile I have a 15month old who is witnessing all this, starting to hit me occasionally and certainly getting distressed by the whole thing. if i try and put DS in a room he will wreck it. i have resorted to a smack a few times this week feel like i am doing a totally rubbish job and don't know what's happened to my lovely boy -where has he gone?? I am making sure i make the most of all his good behaviour and give him as much 1-2-1 calm time as i can (reading books together, building lego etc) but just don't know what to do next??
he starts school in 10 days and i am hoping this helps. he goes to nursery 3 days a week where he is really happy and they report that he is such a happy, eager, polite kid. (which just makes me feel more of a failure)
I have a couple of theories but don't know if they are correct? he has slight deafness and is being fitted for hearing aid so maybe some of this is frustration at not always hearing? does he need to get out and run off some more energy? should i get him some activity equipment for his birthday (pogo stick, slide etc) or will that make him more hyper? we have cut out all sweets and chocolates at the moment so i don't think it's that. please help.
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please please help. Don't know what to do next. 5yo DS violence
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missingthemountains · 31/08/2009 20:08
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