Weaning blues - delayed onset baby blues? Anyone else had this?

[cheeseycharlie]

I am really struggling to get my head around weaning. DD is 6 months next week, so I really am leaving it as late as I can and I still don't want to start. Since I started to think about and get organised for weaning I am experiencing some late onset baby blues. I feel alone and isolated, guilty, all the baby blues things I expected to get when my milk came in etc but it never happened - and so I thought I was immune! Hah!
I have loads of stuff that I expected to make me depressed when DD arrived - issues with my own mum etc - but in the end I felt fine. But now it is all catching up with me. I keep waking at 4am (not bcos of DD who sleeps through) in cold sweats about weaning. Also sometimes think about my own family issues etc. I don't have rational concerns about weaning, but for some reason I have become very anxious at this time.
I am exclusively BFing at the mo - am I weirding out about cutting apron strings? Already?? What will I be like when she goes off to uni??!
Excuse me while I go and weep, but did anyone else experience this?

[MrsBadger]

you are not mad
I hated the thought of it as dd was a fab bfer and I had no desire to muck it all up

the best advice I had was to do blw
no stress, no hassle, no special kit, no Annabel farking Karmel timetables

1. sit child in highhair
2. place leftovers (toast crusts, chips, cooked veg, soft fruit etc) on tray
3. eat your own lunch and let her get on with it
4. remove remnants, wipe child, clean floor

the best of it is that there is no need to worry about cutting their milk - just feed as you always have and regard food as an optional extra

trust dd
you will be fine

[njmomof1]

Hi

Not had the same but similar. Was BFing my DS(6mths 2moro) but had additional stress and I screwed up somewhere because my milk dwindled to nothing, ended up using formula and was really upset by it everytime I made a bottle! But now I'm having the same feelings all over again because my DS is on homemade purees and he won't hold food or his beaker and I feel like I've made him lazy....

Sorry, I've got no advice really but you're not on your own about the apron strings thing, DS will only sit on your lap if he's asleep or nearly there...V.independent in that way so I still get upset because my baby a tonly 6mths seems to have buggered off without telling me!!!!

[MrsBadger]

njmom do not worry that your ds is 'lazy' - he is still really really young for food
at his age dd hadn't had any solids at all, and she didn;t start eating 'properly' till she was almost 1. Milk is still the most important thing till 12m so do not stress so soon!

(NB dd is now 2 and eats anything and everything)

offer finger foods and let him go at his own pace

[njmomof1]

Thank you MrsBadger x

I started a thread last night about this and haven't really got any helpful replies so I glad of the advice.

[cheeseycharlie]

mrsbadger i think blw is the way. after posting this morning i got my sorry arse into gear and popped some fingers of gently cooked (cooled!) organic carrot on her tray.

i am relieved that it doesn't have to be as complicated as people make out. dd played with the carrot for about 10 mins and then got tired, I doubted whether anything had gone in until i saw bits of carrot turn up in er nappy a few hours later! was wondering about the interaction with BFing but you have answered that one for me.

will just continue in this vein for a bit and try not to let the anxious feelings overwhelm. dd is good motivation for pulling myself together when i come over all pathetic.

njmom thanks for the moral support. if ds seems independent then congratulations on instilling such self-confidence in him already. and his 'laziness' might just be that he enjoys meal times being fed by you, which hopefully compensates a little for the lack of cuddles.

[MrsBadger]

nice one cheesey
hang in there

one day you will be out lunchtime with your antenatal posse, they will all be fannying about with flasks and purees and spoons and microwaves and your dd will calmly be munching half of your cheese salad sandwich...