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No! No it's not! NO! IT'S NOT! Not! No! WAHHHHHHHHHHH!

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kitesarefun Tue 18-Aug-09 19:10:35

This is my DD.

This is all she says ALL day, to anything I say.

This and near constant whinging.

For example I ask "DD why are you whinging? What's up?"

DD: "NO! NO it's not! Not whinging!"

Can you guess how old she is? grin

What am I doing wrong? Is there anything I can do about this behaviour before my head explodes?

cornsillk Tue 18-Aug-09 19:11:36

Is she 7/8?

AvengingGerbil Tue 18-Aug-09 19:12:43

9yrs 8 months, perchance?

kitesarefun Tue 18-Aug-09 19:13:07

No

Oh god, don't tell me this continues till they're 8? shock

cornsillk Tue 18-Aug-09 19:16:45

At least....
How old is she then?

DidEinsteinsMum Tue 18-Aug-09 19:27:21

My guess is 3 or 4.

PixelHerder Tue 18-Aug-09 19:35:00

I'd guess 3 - it sounds familiar... hmm

duchesse Tue 18-Aug-09 19:39:14

9? Mine are a right bunch of whingy moos.

potatofactory Tue 18-Aug-09 19:39:23

3? A threenager? grin

MarthaFarquhar Tue 18-Aug-09 19:40:14

Mine's 2.5, and verrry similar ATM

suwoo Tue 18-Aug-09 19:41:06

I'd say 2. Mine is similar.

Smithagain Tue 18-Aug-09 19:41:42

3

or 7

we had a bit of a lull in between those ages, if that helps grin

IsItMeOr Tue 18-Aug-09 19:42:19

I'd assumed 2?

differentDM Tue 18-Aug-09 19:43:16

she's about 7, I'd say.

MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours Tue 18-Aug-09 19:45:57

I'd say between 2.5 and 3.5 (if my DD is anything to go by). Please don't say older, I'll kill someone if it goes on into 4!

kitesarefun Tue 18-Aug-09 19:47:29

Yep she's 2...going on 13 grin

Anyone got any advice to make it stop? Please? <begs>

Had to put her to bed early as my brain was melting

catinthehat2 Tue 18-Aug-09 19:51:25

7

Smithagain Tue 18-Aug-09 19:58:09

Advice to make it stop:

Refuse to understand anything said in a whinging voice. Although that does mean spending 95% of the day saying "Sorry, I can't understand you" "Sorry I can't understand you" "Sorry, I can't understand you" Which is also irritating.

Alternatively

Wait until the glorious day when you suddenly realise she's stopped doing it.

Personally, I tried the first, but the second was more effective.

kitesarefun Tue 18-Aug-09 20:01:30

But smithagain I might be waiting until she's 8 if the previous posts are anything to go by.

THAT's 6 long years away. I will be a jibbering mess by then grin

Smithagain Tue 18-Aug-09 21:17:14

grin To be fair, I think DD1 stopped at about five. But she seems to have started again at about 6.5. The whining is different this time, though, and easier to reason with. And she is at school some of the time, which is good for a bit of head space hmm.

MultiTaskingMum Tue 18-Aug-09 21:40:00

I'm with Smithagain - refuse to understand or respond to anything said in a whingeing voice. Keep very clearly asking her to say it again as you can't understand and she needs to speak slowly and clearly. I still use that tactic if my 8yo whinges!!
When mine were smaller, I also refused to let them yell and scream at or in front of me; I'd put them in another room & walk away until they were ready to talk to me - letting them continue their behaviour, just not 'here'!
Choose your response and stick to it - if your DD is a toddler she will be testing ALl your limits (and I reckon whatever happened as a toddler will haunt me again when they are teenagers so I'd better learn fast!!)
Good Luck!

PixelHerder Tue 18-Aug-09 22:36:33

I find the whining often accompanies frustration and tiredness. I've now started using the line 'if that toy/activity is making you cry and whine, then I will take it away as you are too tired to play with it. Come and sit down quietly and have a drink of water instead'.

This of course usually prompts a further bout of denial and whining, but if I follow through with it and take toy away or move her away from the activity, it's quite effective, and she's forced to think twice before whinging the next time if she wants to carry on with what she's doing.

It's damned tedious though...

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