my 4 yr old dd used to go to bed very nicely but in the past few months has become the devil child at bedtime!
put her to bed at 8 with ds who is 8 and he goes off quite nicely whereas atmidnight she is literally trashing her room (does it very quietly). the other night every toy was on the bedroom floor so she cud make a den under her bed!
she also developed a scream and literally seems to lose the plot slightly, know its all a put on as when we ring her dad to speak to her she calms down instantly, promises him to behave and then promplty starts again when the phone is put down.
tried bribing with chocolate for the next mornign and done the whole star chart thing but the novelty seems to wear off.
think i might try the earlier bedtime and see if that works and if it does then its an added bonus! have said to both ds and dd that the black bin bags like childrens toys so if they want to leave them out thats fine!
I don't mean to be nosy or insensitive but I was just wondering if it is a recent thing that her dad is not around? Maybe she knows that if she's naughty enough she'll get to speak to him.... Could it be an attention seeking thing? Also is she sharing a room with your ds? Maybe, just to break the cycle, you could put her to bed in your bed, separately from her brother, then move her into her own bed once she's asleep.... Not ideal I know. Got no idea why I'm trying to give advice actually - my dd2 is a terrible sleeper! Just wanted to wish you luck!
make sure they go to bed seperate times so she is asleep before brother goes to bed he can stay down stairs reading book give her earlier bedtime maybe she is over tired give her some one to one story time settle her down have ds in pj's already then send him off quietly to bed