My 7mo just went into meltdown (really screaming in a way she's only done when she's had injection etc) and I couldn't find any reason for it other than I'd put her down in her crib and she wanted to play. I can't work out if it's her first tantrum - unrelated to food/sleep/nappy etc What age to children start having wilful tantrums?
You're probably right cornsilk but she usually just mithers and cries a bit until I go back in - but this time - hysterical complete with pouty mouth and what seemed like anger. DH and I just at each other!
My ds did it from birth... think they all do if they wat to be picked up. Don't forget she's probably starting with separation anxiety and therefore you putting her down and leaving her will terrify her so she' sbound to shreik! Pick her up and go with it is all I can suggest, they all go through it. xx
Luxmum - no I picked her up and she went up a notch - absolutely hysterical - took me and dh about 10 mins to calm her down. That's what I mean - it was just very very weird - it was like she got really angry and was going to scream beyond getting what she wanted - in the same way as toddlers do sometimes.
meandjoe - I did wonder whether it was the beginnings of separation anxiety (just as she's about to go to nursery - greeeeat!) As I said I'm used to her crying - but to not be able to calm her down is just odd. I've only ever seen it in toddlers (and twice in her when she had immunisations and when she got a real fright).
my DD started having noticeable tantrums at about 9months (she'd look very angry and throw herself back on the floor, regardless of what was behind her [cue lightning reflexes and the odd bump on the back of her head]) she's now 17 months, and they are proper toddler tantrums with stamping feet and everything. and the same angry face!!! So....yes it does sound like one. Sounds like a typical girl to me In a week or two you'll forget she didn't have them. (i hope so anyway!!)
patience, patience and more patience...and try not to laugh!! no point in getting frustrated, it's their only way of communicating their emotions. there's a good guide on here about toddler tantrums - i know your LO isn't quite a toddler yet but it does sort of apply! hang on i'll find it
tbh i found them quite hard going initially, but once i realised she couldn't tell me any other way, it was a good turning point. think you just have to make sure she's safe (so i have to be very quick and catch her head if she's doing a ThrowMyselfBackWhateverTheTerrain) and not react overly otherwise they learn very quickly how to manipulate the situation!!!
i like the bit in the toddlers site about how it's hard to get things in perspective when you're a toddler. that makes sense to me! Good luck!
Thanks so much MummyElk (and everyone else who has answered).
I think it'll take a while for me to know the difference between an 'I'm hurt' scream and a 'Life's shit and I'll make you pay' tantrum tbh. She's such a docile, happy little thing normally (and so smiley - getting round M&S in Worthing is a nightmare because she smiles at every old lady ...and there are many) that it comes as such a shock when she screams blue murder.
Right I'll go and look at the link and see what I'm in for
My Ds started to have complete meltdowns at about 8 mths and would pinch me in temper . He is now a year and lovely but boy is he stroppy! I'm a nursery nurse and always knew i would get a spirited one, nursery nurses nearly always do (think it punishment for saying to parents 'oh i can't believe their like that, they are little angels here!)