I have always been aware that 3 year old ds is not very bright, but lately I've been thinking it's more than that.
He's been refered to a salt because he pronounces a lot of words wrong and his language is disorganised. We haven't had our first appointment yet so I don't know what the outcome will be. At the moment though I am more worried about his behaviour. He hardly ever follows through with any instructions I give him. I used to think this was just naughtiness but now I think it's something else. I was in the bath just now and he came in and wanted to sit down where I put the towels. I said 'no, don't move the towels, sit on the stool'. He ignored me and I said it over and over again. When the towels were all over the floor I lost my temper and picked them up and said 'Sit on the stool'. He kept saying 'wha', everytime I said it. I was pointing at the stool as I was saying but all he was doing was staring at the tip of my finger and then at his feet. 5 minutes later he was trying to put his cars in the bath with me. I told him to take the cars to his bedroom and play, but he couldn't understand me. Just kept sying 'Wha, wha'. I'm sure he was listening and trying to understnd but it's as if I'm speaking another language to the one he knows. Then he said he wanted to wash his hands, which means him turning the taps full on and splashing water everywhere. I told him no, but he wouldn't stop. In the end I shouted at him really loudly and I think scared him into stopping. I felt so bad then, as he turned to me, and started to cry. He walked out of the bathroom with his head down and I could hear him sobbing in his bedroom.
I felt bad so went to get him and we had a cuddle and both said sorry. But half an hour later he showed me that he'd done a wee in his bedroom. I was trying to explain that he mustn't do that, and ask him why he didn't use the potty, but he just interupted me to announce that he was going shoppping and picked up a bag and put it over his shoulder. He thought this was very funny, but I just felt frustrated and tired of it all. I tried to hold him still and get him to make eye contact with me so we can have a chat, but he won't do it. He wriggles, closes his eyes and puts his back to me. I got so fed up that I told him that I was gonna count to 10 and that if he still wouldn't listenthen he would have to go in the naughty corner for 3 minutes. All he did was try to count along with me. I don't think he understood why I was counting, or that I was running out of patience and he was about to be disciplined. When I put him in the naughty corner he was devastated. Screamed like he had no idea why and hadn't had a warning. When I went to get him he was so upset. Just sat on my lap with his arms around my neck for ages, like he was terrified.
I don't know what to do to make him understand me. I used to think this was just normal behavour, but the lack of understanding on his part makes me think differently.
What do you all think?
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jenkins88 · 19/05/2005 14:46
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