Ok here goes. This is long, sorry! My 3 year old DD is usually well behaved if a little mischievous at times just like other 3 year olds. She plays nicely at pre-school and they say she behaves very well and is one of the quieter children there. (def not quiet at home lol) Anyway i take her to playgroups and we mix with friends and their children around the same age as DD. We always have a lovely time DD really enjoys the company.
So there is one child who we have seen every week more or less since they were tiny. For the past few months DD has been playing up really bad with this child, being quite nasty and saying "no-one else can play with my toys" etc and taking things off the girl. she kind of goes after her all the time wanting a reaction and its awful. I don't let her behave this way, as soon as i see it i remove her from the situation, sometimes i have to take her to her room because she just changes totally, starts running around and hitting me and being silly!!
Now DD is nothing like this normally, she gets on so well with my other friends children and does tend to be the quieter one, not really dominant with other children. Im trying to think of why she might do this. The only thing different about this child is that she speaks a different language and can only say a few words in english (but can understand a lot) Her and her mum speak in their own language at our house to eachother. Maybe DD gets frustrated at the lack of communication between the girl and her? DD is very chatty. Also the other thing is that when something happens that the child doesn't like, she just screams and cries, she doesn't talk much if you know what i mean. I think DD gets annoyed with the crying (they are the same age) she does tell me that XXX always cries! Also i am not as relaxed with the mum as i am with my other friends, maybe DD picks up on this? I feel i am a bit more strict with my DD than my friend is with hers, she tends to get exactly what she wants, when she wants and i think this annoys DD as well! If the child cries, their game has to stop and DD is always dissapointed.
What can i do about this? I am trying to avoid them really because to be honest the mum always makes me feel like she has the perfect child and mine is a brat I know this is not true as DD is normal like any other 3 year old, like all my other friend's children. I can't help thinking that DD just doesn't like this girl, but i know thats no reason to be like this with her and i don't want DD to end up a bully if she meets someone she doesn't like at school . What would you do? Please help!
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Any ideas why my 3 year old behaves this way??
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maybebaby23 · 13/07/2009 10:26
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