I've just had an argument with my Mum over this issue, so now I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable.
DS is nearly 4, and has been quite a handful (not surprisingly) since the birth of DS2 10 weeks ago. But we're getting there, things are basically going OK.
Anyway, lately he's started hitting me if I tell him to do something he doesn't want to do, or if he's thwarted in any way. As far as I know he doesn't hit other children. I've never hit him, or threatened to.
My response is to tell him not to hit at all. He's been told many times now, so when he hits me I send him into another room to calm down, then he has to apologise (which he readily does).
I asked my Mum to back me up in this when she visits next week, but she's not happy to. She says that he's too young to be expected to control his hitting impulses, and as a parent I should just take it. She did, however, say that he should be told not to hit other children.
I feel that it's more confusing to tell him he can hit some people and not others, and a blanket ban on hitting full-stop is easier to understand. And I think that, at nearly 4, he is old enough to practice some self-control.
Am I wrong?
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DS nearly 4 - reasonable to ban hitting?
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Rebecca41 · 10/07/2009 13:34
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