DH is away with the forces and I got into the habit of letting her sleep in my bed when she woke up at night, as a baby she would NEVER co-sleep, she hated it.
This isn't really the problem, but I would quite like to knock it on the head.
I put her to bed at 6:30 and she goes straight off, I've tried making bedtime later, but she ends up asleep downstairs anyway, but any time between 8pm and 10pm she will wake, put her arms up and expect to be carried downstairs for a cuddle, another bad habit I got into.
She NEVER does any of this when DH is home. She either sleeps straight through or will wake, be reassured by DH and go back down.
dd however is 4 and also never slept with us as a baby (never would/wanted to) YET dh started to work away since last sept and since then she has got into that habit. Not every night and can overlap into when dh is home...
BUT (sounds like you...) most of its been my own doing. I get lonely when dh is away so would ask her if she wanted to sleep in mummys bed and although it doesn't happen every night I do tend to allow it althugh not once dh home.
It is hard, I KNOW I shouldn't do it BUT I love the company and confort from her being then and I guess she fels the same....
No advice sorry...
Maybe the best start would be to say No when she asks..? see what response you get..? go from there..?
think thats all you can do tpp..Hard I know. Dd has always been a good sleeper, ds on the otherhand would cry and scream and shout..not something I had ever experienced.
I found it hard to ignore him to a certain point and then to settle him but it worked eventually.
Dd went through a similar stage last week, my fault as I willing allowed her into the bed when dh was away and she wanted the same when he was home...she was also ill so wanted the comfort.
BUT repetition and we got there...thing is I find with dh working away I get lonely and anxious (just started a thread on this) and end up wanting her in my bed again for the comfort..Ahh............being a parent is so hard and I wish they gave you classes before you embarked on parenthood. A gold star awarded at the end.