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foolproof biting deterrent please

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plimple Tue 07-Jul-09 19:07:08

My 25 month DD is a biter. I am a childminder. Anyone got any foolproof tips on what I can do to get her to never do it again?
She does it when she wants something someone else has. Generally the only reason she wants it is because they have it.
I started out doing time out for a couple minutes til other child reassured and then getting her to say sorry - first incident about 18 months.
One time she did it and I told her if she ever did it again I'd bite her back.
Another time I did bite her back.
Currently I have strong words as I put her up in her room alone, leave her 10 mins and then talk about how awful it is.
Next step just totally ignore her while lavishing extra super special attention to the bitten??
Obviously I am usually on hand to try and stop it in the first place. She knows to say please and wait her turn for things. She knows that biting is bad and will talk about it the next day and tell her dolls not to bite. I am always super fair when there is any altercation on who is playing with what.
It happened today, time before 2 weeks ago, time before that about 3/4 weeks. It's not every day (perhaps it would be if I didn't step in more?), but even once is once too often as far as I'm concerned.

JudyBlume1019 Tue 07-Jul-09 19:09:14

Next step just totally ignore her while lavishing extra super special attention to the bitten??
This is the only thing that worked for us, but tbh, there is NOTHING you can do to ensure it doesn't happen again, except perhaps tape up her mouth

plimple Tue 07-Jul-09 19:21:21

Thanks. That'll be my next move. It's so hard having to tell the parents of the bitten. It makes me feel like I've failed her and their DD (it's usually the same child of exactly same age - she has bitten others in past, but last few times has just been her). I don't really think that I have, but it's hard not being able to find a solution.

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