My DTs had their first taster of pre-school this morning, they are 2 and are starting 3 mornings per week from Sept. It is a nice, quiet environment right opposite our house. Up until now they have been at home with me, with help from a nanny and grandparents a few hours per week who I occasionally leave them alone with.
DS was fine, wandered in, made himself at home and played v happily the whole time. DD was a little more anxious about where mummy was, so I stayed for about 45 mins in view, then sloped off outside while she was absorbed in painting. While at home they called me as she was totally hysterical for no reason. I arrived and eventually managed to calm her down, but she wouldn't say what was wrong. I have never seen her so distressed. We all stayed and played a little while together, so she left on a happy note, then came home.
Later I asked them what they had been doing and she kept saying 'DD crying, DD crying'. I asked her why she said 'DD wanted mummy. missed mummy'. Rather stupidly I started crying (she has never shown much interest in me, preferring her dad!!!!), then realised I didn't know what to say. All afternoon she has said 'DD crying, miss mummy' and went to bed saying it tonight, quite upset still.
I am not sure what to say to her, how to comfort her truthfully - I can't say 'mummy won't leave you again' because I will (although it'll break my heart!!!) and am not sure how to reassure. She is only 2 but has good speech and comprehension. Any advice on how to handle???
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DTs starting preschool - advice on DD who misses mummy!
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penona · 06/07/2009 20:32
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