My dd told me last night that when my dh shouts at her it reminds her of when he used to smack her and it really frightens her. She was very upset and although we have spoken before about how she feels about her dad and the way he is with her, it's woken me up a bit.
I was never happy with him smacking either my dd or ds but i wasn't able to stop him (he thought it was his right as a father and he was smacked as a child, etc etc). However, I thought it was only when they were pre-school but my dd told me yesterday he had done it 4/5 years ago in a playground (pulling down her trousers and smacking her on the bottom).
I'm sure she's not lying (why would she?) but she may not have clear memories. If this is true, though, I'm sick at the thought that he would do this when she was 7/8 in public place. No wonder she is scared of him now.
What do I do? He still regularly "scares" both ds and dd and raises his hand but i've not seen him smack them in the last couple of years.
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dd upset by dh - not sure what to do
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flowerbunny · 01/07/2009 17:46
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