Hi Ladies,
My DD 3.9 said to me the other day "mummy, children don't die do they, only grown ups die".
And also "mummys and daddys don't die to they, only old people die".
I was quite shocked to find myself just slightly swerving the issue and generally making noises to suggest she was right.
DD's beloved Grandad died when she was 2.5. She didn't really understand it but she knows he has "died" and we knew it was coming so she was as prepared as it's possible to prepare her.
We're not religious so I haven't done the whole "he's watching over us, with the angels" thing, but I have said that I believe he lives on in our wonderful memories of him and all the good deeds he did whilst he was alive, and all the things he taught us (can you tell I'm channelling Badger's Parting Gifts? )
Anyway, back to my OP. I realised I felt there was little point worrying DD unnecessarily. My thinking is that sooner or later she will realise that everyone, including her will die eventually. And by that time she'll be old enough to understand why I protected her from that at such a young age...if she even remembers me saying it.
I know some of you will say I'm setting her up for a shock if something tragic DOES happen but I have to say that's a chance I'm willing to take.
Am interesting in how any others have handled this issue with pre-schoolers, and anyone whose gone through it and up to the point where their DC's are old enough to realise now that everyone dies in the end.
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Concept of death - 3.9 year old. Share thoughts please on age old issue
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Sycamoretreeisvile · 15/06/2009 10:52
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