Oh no, what have I done?

[mooki]

DD had been pretty fantastic for quite a while (probably from about 14 months) - good at bedtime, ok at eating, getting a bit more independent and lots of fun. I got lulled into a false sense of security...

But in the last week (she's now 21 months) it's all gone horribly wrong. We moved her into a big bed because I was worried about her climbing out of her cot, but that has led to some epic bedtimes and increasingly early morning visits.

Whether or not it's just becaused she's tired but there also seems to be a sudden increase in 'end of the world if you take my wellington boots off' tantrums.

She's very determined and very talkative. I feel like I'm being bossed about a lot of the time.

Have I buggered things up by moving her to a big bed early, or was this just always coming anyway?

I was a big fan of the www.thewonderweeks.com/ for explaining /making me feel better when DD was going through a difficult phase when little. I really hope she's getting a brain upgrade at the moment and things will calm down in a week or so rather than this being it now until she's 3...

[rubyslippers]

well she is in the terrible 2's isn't she?

not sure it is anything to do with the bed

Dr Christopher Green's toddler taming book is very good for common sense advice IME

[barnsleybelle]

Don't know if it's the bed thing for you. My 21 month old dd started with horrendous tantrums a few weeks ago. FWIW, she's still in her cot, ds was 3 before he gave up the cot and he never once climbed out.

Re dd's tantrums which are full on meltdown, biting, head banging, the whole lot. I started a diary jotting down how much sleep she had, what we did, where we went and when she had a tantrum. I discovered a pattern and is was always when she was overtired or overstimulated. She gets dragged along to lots of 7yr old ds's activities etc and misses daytime sleep often.
I cut out a couple of toddler groups and started to try and find time to chill with her on the couch listening to quiet music. They have definately become less.

[mooki]

Rubyslippers - I had hoped we had a few more months - until she was 2 years. I've got Toddler Taming, I might relook at it.

Bansleybelle, sorry to hear you're having a tough time. Alice's upsets are at least short lived, but she has started sweeping toys off shelves or cups off tables etc. And you never know what's going to cause it some days it it is the complete opposite of what cause it the day before.

She is fine with my mum and with the childminder (though she got her first telling off this week for hitting someone over the head with a plastic spade.)

[barnsleybelle]

mooki... With the sounds of it, it's just normal development, testing the boundaries etc!
My dd's episodes are complete meltdown. Casting my mind back to ds, he went through something similar, but was a little older.

If i were you i would convince myself that the fact that she's started a little earlier than 2 indicates her obvious advanced intellect .