I am at a loss how to deal with DS2's recently. In general he's quick-tempered and slightly intolerant of other children's foibles. He's also a kind, loving affectionate boy. He often feels excluded at school by his friends. I don't know how real this is, or whether it is his perception. For the past 4 years he has had about 5 constant friends, who he is in and out of friendship with.
School tell me he is a popular member of the class,fairly socially skilled and well-behaved.
Recently he has come home with a few bruises caused by one of the 'naughty' boys in his class. I have talked to school about it and it is being dealt with. Just before half-term DS1 hit another of the 'difficult' boys in his class, and now his big brother age 17 is threatening to 'box' DS1. Big brother was excluded from school, and the family are well-known in the area for being 'troubled'.
DS1 was terrified and I immediately went into school and informed the head, who reassured me it will all blow over.
DS is very anxious about it. We have talked it over many times, and I have promised to collect him from school etc.
Part of his anxiety manifests itself by DS1 being really nasty with all of us. DS2 is the biggest victim. This morning DS1 kicked him in the genitals, was verbally abusive towards him etc. I am sorry to say I lost with DS1 and shouted that there was no need for him to take his worries about school on everyone else. The only way to stop him from continuing to hurt DS2 was to say I would smack him..
As well as feeling terrible about this, I am really worried about DS1 and how to proect and help him through this.
DH says it is a normal part of growing up, but I'm not so sure.
Thanks for reading, and please if you have experience/advice to offer I'd be grateful to hear it.
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Please help me with my 9 year old DS' s behaviour.....
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MorocconOil · 01/06/2009 14:47
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