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What to do - sorry, long, dull, please read anyway!

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GhostofNatt Wed 04-May-05 21:13:41

Ok so here is scenario: DSese were having playdates with a boy at nursery school who is an only child. this all seemed to be going well and then the other boy's manny started making excuses to our nanny about them not meeting up. Today our nanny told me that in fact the boy's mother has banned the playdates because she perceived the boys to be behaving too roughly together in the playground. I quizzed DS1 (4) about it and he said that he had pushed the boy "by accident" and the boy had hit his head and then cried until he went home (our nanny never mentioned this). Now I feel I should do something about this in order to a)apologise if necessary to the boy's mother, b) ascertain whether DSes are being supervised / controlled sufficiently by our v nice but somewhat laidback nanny. Don't see the boy or his mother much as nanny usually takes DSes to school and don't want to make too much of a big deal out of it. I am concerned to know whether our nanny is supervising properly but I also have a sense that thsi other boy's mother may be a wee bit over-protective (I believe her to have banned other playdates in the past). So, oh wise ones, what would you do?

GhostofNatt Wed 04-May-05 21:21:45

Hmm, should have realised thsi was a loser of a subject line, Going off to watch tv now, if no one responds may re-post under "Advice re DP's penis enlargement" or similar

MarsLady Wed 04-May-05 21:22:53

I think she's being overprotective. Don't worry your head. I don't think that there is anything that you can do. I imagine that your nanny is supervising as well as any of us, if not better. If she's banned playdates in the past then you know where the problem lies.

Nemo1977 Wed 04-May-05 21:24:20

think the mum is being a bit ott as when ds goes to school i will expect some ruff n tumble type of thing as thats the nature of kids.

whymummy Wed 04-May-05 21:25:24

yes,i think the other mum is over reacting but if it bothers you get your ds to write a card saying sorry for the accident to the other boy.

GhostofNatt Wed 04-May-05 21:28:36

OK, didn't go and watch TV as was still fretting. Thank you, Nemo and Marslady, was having taht bad, oh dear, are my kids the worst kids in the world feeling (which is really the oh dear am I the worst mummy and shoudl i be reading more manuals and watching more Supernanny feeling) Feel much better and can now watch Depsreate Houswives rather than re-reading "Raising boys" ...

GhostofNatt Wed 04-May-05 21:30:06

Good plan, whymummy, then I won't feel awkward seeing the mother at school dos. Still feeling oddly offended by whole thing but hey, life probably too short...

MarsLady Wed 04-May-05 21:35:06

too short indeed!

whymummy Wed 04-May-05 21:35:37

yes,it's not worth it and if your ds likes this boy then it'll be better to make peace

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