I've been in several reception class plays where the majority of children can't sing in tune at all (adds to the entertainment value) but 2 of my 4 were singing in tune by around 3yrs. The other two...well, don't expect to see them on Britain's got talent anytime soon!
all 3 of my DS's about 18 months (before they could actually talk we had the tunes ).
However, I did a pitch test thing when I was 7yrs old (to see if I would be picked to learn the violin at school) and my parents were told I was "totally unmusical and would never play a musical instrument"
<<<<<<<<<<sticks 2 virtual fingers up at them before she heads out to play the piano for the after school service>>>>>>>>>>>
We are in the same genetic situation. I have a good singing voice and did some serious choral singing before kids. DH is tone deaf and was the only person not allowed to sing in his infant school choir .
DD2 aged 3.5 sings pretty well in tune, makes up her own songs, can clap to the beat etc.
But DD1 is 6.5 and still not there. She can nearly sing a tune and stay in tune with herself (i.e. only occasionally changing key for not good reason!). She still can't clap to a beat. And she doesn't seem to be able to hear a note and sing it accurately - so doesn't sing the same notes as everyone else, even if her tune is passable.
If anyone has any tips for teaching DD1 to tune into the pitch that everyone else is singing, I'd love to hear them.
I share your wistfulness Duffy. I am very musical but dh not so. DD is 3.7 and doesn't sing very much - but when she does - well - it's very tuneless. Also she just doesn't seem to really love music or want to play music they way I did. Alas, I think she got her musical talent genes from the same place as her hair. And it's not from me.