god i don't know where to start i didn't know what else to do apart from get some help from the real experts mums and dads!! my son of 7 and his friend from a few doors away were playing in his room at the weekend and my boyfriend had his 4 yr old daughter for this weekend they were playing with a hide and seek scooby doo, dsd's mum came round to drop off some clothes and stayed for a while having a chat,
she went up to say bye to her daughter and came down not too amused saying thats not nice you shouldnt be looking at her bum... the little boy from down the street quickly left and from then on from talking we found out that the 2 boys had taken off her trousers she lay on the bed and they were looking at her flower then they were both kissing her flower and then her bum,
this caused some problems the girls mum took her home and said she wasnt allowed back in the house and if dad wanted to see her then he came round,
its all been talked about and my son has told me everything that happened he doesnt know anything about sex or what it was they were even doing and this isnt normal behaviour for my son everyone knows they're kids best!! dsd's mum me and my bf have been talking and we know theres not much else we can do since they are so young apart from eplain to them how wrong this is and they are their private parts and give them that talk, still not sure whats happening about getting dsd at weekends or if she's aloud back in the house hopefully time will be the cure of this..
that's not my problem though dsd mum is going in to tell her nursery teacher today i can see why she wants to incase dsd says things to her and a big case gets blown up over something that's been dealt with at home (the only place i think it can be dealt with!), and she wants to find a way of putting this on file im really confused about this because im in two minds about it i know she wants to protect her daughter and have it written that it happened and she did something about it but at the same time ive been reading up and it alot more common than i thought so common that its natural my boyfriend wants me to tell my sons teachers too i have find anyway of this being the right thing to do.. does his primary 4 teacher need to know after summer? what about his primary 5? right through to high school? i dont think so but these are some scarey thoughts that go through my head i understand he wants her protected but this is not an abuse case!!! all 3 of them were in the wrong experimenting needing that "talk" just because hes 3 yrs older doesnt mean he knows and understands what he was doing anymore than she does it was all a laugh to them all! and i feel it needs not go further than the house i can see it doing more harm than good! its going to cause an argument tonight when he gets home from work because i didnt talk to his teacher but i cant if i feel its the wrong thing to do and i need to protect my son as much as he needs to protect his daughter its just seems to be getting blown a little ott. am i in the wrong? should we tell all their teachers?
and help any opinions im open to all even some related stories thankyou so much sorry it was a long read...
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DS 7 and DSD 4 sexual activity help please!! (sorry its a long one)
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Jenni84 · 09/02/2009 11:07
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