Doesn't like to be left with Daddy ...(10 Posts)
DD is 23 weeks and has just lately been really clingy. She doesnt like it if i am not in her sights!
The funny thing is, she is absolutely fine with one of my g/f and i can happily leave her for a couple of hours in her care.
But, what is causing upset in the house, is that she does not like to be left with DP. This is making him feel quite rejected.
I just went out to the shops. I was gone for about 20 minutes. When I left DD was playing happily with DP and they were giggling together (thick as thieves!).
I returned to screaming (which i could here from outside) and a very upset DD and DP. He could do nothing to pacift her. As soon as she heard my voice in the kitchen she went deadly quiet.
When i cam in the room i was greeted by beaming grins and a look of relief from DP!
Is there anything I can do, as i know DP is quite hurt by this ...
(I've posted a few messages on here - I dont really have anyone to talk to about this stuff so thank you all for your help!! looking back at all my threads i sound like a right numpty)
I think all babies go through clingy stages. Sometimes its mummy they want and sometimes its daddy.
was it near feeding time maybe?
dp could always wear some of your clothes for your smell???? (maybe a bit worrying for you on your return!)
its not the first time she has been like this, so i went out after she had a good feed and winding. she was happily playing with DP for 10-15 minutes before i went out
haha ... there's quite a size difference between us so it would certainly be amusing to suggest he try on some clothing!! i'll restrict the drawers that he can pick clothing from tho!!
my dd was like this for yonks with her dad and it drovew me mad and he got upset/annoyed over it too.to an extent she is still like that, wont let him change her nappy, or go out to the shops with him, it mama all the time, i dont now why, bar that her routine is implemented by me and she is familiar with it (babies/toddlers like routine - when food is, that kind routine). i'm a sahm
so all say is leave her with him and dont fret she will be fine.
ds used to sleep with my yesterday's tshirt in the cot with him to help him settle, worth trying that when you go out.
The other thing is, do you think your DP might play with her a bit too long, until she's overtired.
Maybe it's just that they are not as used to each other as you and baby are. Try letting him do more of her care while you are in, so it's not so much of a change when you are out.
kama - i do these things in the day, so she knows that if i'm not in the same room i will be coming back. when i am in the house, she is fine with DP - i think its when she cant hear me moving / banging around. i have tried leaving her for short amounts of time just the two of them - i'll pop round to a neighbours but she just gets so worked up when i'm not there!
the confusion is that she is fine with a g/f of mine. i could probably leave her all day and she'd be fine!!
easy - DP is very good with her and shares nappies and bathing, etc in the evenings / weekends. now she is weaning, we share the feeds too.
the only difference is that i'm home all day with her while he is at work, so she is used to being with me the majority of the time
any other time when she cries, he can calm her as well as i can. but when i leave her alone in the house with him, nothing he does seems to work
Its looking more and more likely that he's going to have to dress in laaadies clothing!!
well i was thinking that he'll just have to run all the errands while i sit on the sofa!!
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