My 9 yr old dd2 (year5) has a school trip coming up soon (she tells me) where they will be "going underground". She isn't sure if it is caves, or a tunnel or a mine (well, she probably does know, but resented my questioning her).
The problem is that she has a fear of being underground. I don't know why, or where it's come from, but in her head it's real. It made our trip up the rock of Gibraltar fairly miserable (what with her fear of the monkeys as well), and recent trips with grandparents to a mine and some caves had to be changed (as they won't push her like I do).
She is saying she doesn't want to go on the school trip, and I am unsure how to approach this - do I tell her she has to go and it's hard luck, hoping that being with her friends and having no choice will mean that she is fine, do I tell her she has to go but let the teacher know of her fears, or do I give her the option of not going at all?
My gut feeling is to write to the teacher but insist she goes, but I wonder if that is going to be more damaging in the long term...
Help!
(namechanged by the way, as both my dd's stalk me on here. Not that you'd probably recognise me under my normal name!)
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fearofcaves · 08/02/2009 10:34
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